Stress Management Magic

20 simple "at your desk" exercises for web workers

2008-02-20T11:06:00.000-08:00

I normally don't post anything I've copied....that is unless it is extremely valuable, and I think these exercises are great!

Not everyone has the time to make it to the gym during their lunch break. But just because you can’t get out of the office (or your cubicle) doesn’t mean that you can’t get some exercise, or “deskercize” during the day. Here are some suggestions for web workers who want to get a work out and get their work done at the same time.

1. Buns of steel
Exercise at your deskNo, you don’t need a shiny lycra bodysuit or big hair to do this popular glute workout. All you have to do tighten and squeeze your buttocks, hold five to ten seconds, and release. Repeat these squeezes 8-10 times, as many times during the day as you feel up to, and notice your newfound buns of steel in just a few weeks.

2. Upper back stretch
The upper back can be a place where tension accumulates throughout the day. By taking just a few seconds to stretch it out, you can release tension and work your muscles. What you need to do is extend your arms in front of you, grab onto your wrist with the other hand and gently pull your arms forward as you round your upper back. Hold it for twenty seconds and then switch sides.

3. Body lift
This is a really easy one. Just place your hands on the arms of your desk chair and lift yourself up. Repeat (if you can).

4. Chair squats
This is another simple “deskercize” as it simulates a motion we’re all pretty used to: standing up and sitting down. To do the “chair squat”, place a chair behind you and stand in front of it with your feet shoulder-width apart. Bend your knees and squat toward your chair until you’re hovering just over it. Hold it for a second, then stand back up. You can do this throughout the day, or just try to hover each time you sit down.

5. Cherry picking
This exercise can help release tension in your upper body and looks just like it sounds. Stretch your arms up, one at a time, as high as you can, as if reaching to pick fruit out of a tree. Repeat 10 times, alternating sides as you go along.

6. Neck stretch
All you have to do for this one is relax your shoulders and let your head roll forward. Slowly rotate your head in a circle and repeat five times.

7. Inner thigh squeeze
A great trick for working on your inner thighs while you’re working on that spreadsheet is to stick a full water bottle between your legs and squeeze against it with your thighs. The bottle offers some resistance (and is there for hydration should you over exert yourself!)

8. Use an exercise ball
Here’s a list of ten reasons that you should consider swapping out that uncomfortable office chair for a healthier alternative. Using an exercise ball can improve posture and give you a work out.

9. Side stretch
Eating too many hot pockets for lunch and looking for a way to get rid of those love handles? Here’s an easy stretch you can do to work out your obliques: with your arms raised over your head, lean gently over to each side as far as you can safely go. Just be careful if your chair has wheels!

10. The funky chicken
This is an exercise that can help loosen up your upper body. You just might want to wait until none of your coworkers are looking. Put your fingertips on your shoulders and lift your elbows up and then push them down to your sides, as if you’re trying to fly. Repeat 10 times. Here’s some inspiration if you need it.

11. Leg lift
This exercise is made for web workers. Just straighten your knees and lift your legs out in front of you.

12. Seated crunches
Put your feet flat on the floor, and make sure that you’re sitting up straight. Then, rest your hands in your lap. Breathe in deep through your nose, “crunching” your upper and lower abs, pushing your lower back against the chair.

13. Yoga
Ever find yourself holding your breath or gritting your teeth as you get through the work day? You might want to try some desk yoga. It’s a way to use your breath to work for you, not against you. You can check out all sorts of desk yoga poses at this site.

14. Shoulder shrugs
If you’re feeling less than ambitious but still want to give yourself a gold star (or early happy hour) for getting your exercise in, just replicate that gesture you perfected as a teenager when your parents asked you a question. With your head at your chest, shrug your shoulders up and down.

15. Push ups
Technically you can’t do this one at your desk. And technically it’s not really a push up. But work with me here. All you have to do is stand facing a wall, with your feet shoulder-width apart and about a foot away from the wall. Rest your palms on the wall at about shoulder height. Bend your elbows and lean toward the wall as far as possible. Keep your legs and back straight. Then push yourself back to starting position.

16. Hug your hamstrings
This is a great exercise for working out the muscles in the backs of your legs that don’t get much use when you’re sitting at a desk all day. And you can do it right where you’re sitting. Just sit back and place your hands under your thigh. Then pull your knee toward your chest and extend the leg straight in front of you. Hold it (if you can) and then switch sides. Do it a couple of times with each leg for maximum results.

17. Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee
Did you get an email from your boss that’s making you livid? Put that energy to good use and get some muscle tone out of it. Just scoot your chair back (so you won’t actually punch a hole in your computer screen) and do some tae-bo action, punching your arms out in front of you and switching sides.

18. Touch your toes
Another easy exercise that will help you work out some tension and maintain flexibility. Stand up in your chair and let your body hang forward, touching as far down on your body as you can. Then, take your right hand and touch it to your left toe and vice versa.

19. Balancing act
You can put that budget report sitting on your desk to good use. By sitting with something on your head, it forces good posture and works your inner core muscles. And hey, you might even learn by osmosis.

20. A-OK
And last but not least, we can’t forget a web worker’s best friends: his fingers. Just touch the tip of your thumb to the tip of each finger in turn, making the circle as round as you can. Straighten your fingers in between touching each finger. This will keep your fingers nimble and increase mobility.

Thanks again Amy for turning me on to these!

Check out all the articles at: http://www.ondd.org/

MAKE IT SO!

2008-02-07T07:12:00.000-08:00

This day is yours - CREATE a beautiful one for yourself and those around you.
THINK before you speak. Take a breath and it will spark your intellect.
Remember words are sharper than any knife and they pierce the heart.
Take THIS opportunity to tell someone you love or appreciate them.
Make these moments of value and the worth of your actions will ultimately
come back to benefit you! It always works.....

A disgusting health tip

2008-02-06T17:29:00.000-08:00

Here’s a fairly disgusting health practice - but it works for me, so I thought I would share it with you! I call it the “Chew and Spew” method of eating beef or pork and saving your colon a lot of work digesting the stuff.

I love a good steak, but many women suffer from irregular bowels (often times due to childbirth. ) We have a tendency not to have the blessing of being regular every day.

Meat takes a bit for our bodies to digest, and so here is a way to enjoy the meat you eat, save calories, AND not tax your digestive tract or plug up your colon.

Are you getting an inkling of the “Chew and Spew” method? I’d been having very sharp pains in my abdomen and was very constipated (a crappy thing to talk about, eh:) -hee hee. Anyway, I found myself chewing the heck out of each bite, but if it had fat or was tough, I would graciously put my napkin to my mouth and try to put the remainder of the bite in it without too much fuss.

Well, my honey and I have been married a long time and so before long he asked what I was doing. He had been my champion and rubbed my “congested” tummy MANY times to help the “process” of digestion along. I told him. He said, “Cool-whatever works!”

That was it. Now (when it is US and ONLY US), I regularly use the “Chew and Spew”
method. To make it easier I simply put my hand to my mouth and take the remaining bite and set it aside on my plate.

Now, like a bird feeding her baby, I take the remains and mix it with my dog’s food. He
loves it! “Waste not-want not” mama always said.

There it is. Practical advice. Not pretty, but if you are with someone you love, or by yourself - they will want the best for you, and you can be discreet about it all.

If you don’t care for your company or want to gross somebody out - do it in public! Then simply declare “Obviously you aren’t familiar with the chew and spew method, are you?”

Life is like excavating......

2008-01-24T08:52:00.000-08:00

......you have to dig, dig, dig, until you find what you want!
Don't settle.
Don't dilute yourself with "justification" for what you do. That's simply a lie.
Don't be angry and unforgiving - it just takes a toll on you physically and mentally.
Don't think of problems as such. Make them "challenges".

Do show kindness to someone today.
Do remember we only have this very moment - live it fully.
Do remember happiness is a choice.
Do MOVE your body and feed it nutrition - it is the only place you have to live.

If you push away the negativity it will diminish.
If you get in the habit of positive thoughts and actions it will pull positive things toward you.

If you think no one really cares - think again! I do.
Do CREATE a wonderful day!

when the unexpected happens, just handle it!

2008-01-20T15:56:00.000-08:00

You could have knocked me over with a feather when on my husband's one day off, he said, "You go to so much work making your tacos, let's invite dad and mom over for dinner."

First of all, last week he said, "I've had enough of them for a while". Secondly, the irony of it is to me, if I work sooooo hard to cook - then let's invite two people over so you have to cook more food, chop more side dishes, set a fancier table, and make sure the house is cleaned up (oh yes, and more dishes!).

Perhaps it was a compliment, and I am now ready for company in half an hour. He now is saying, "Hmmmmm. Kind of wished I hadn't asked them over!" :)

"Yeah", I thought, "Could have ran naked in the house!" Oh well.

When he brought up the idea I told him - "It's your day off-whatever you want to do is fine with me." I meant it. Marriage is a give and take partnership and he holds up his end of the bargain - so I am too. Anyway, life is fleeting and I do love my in-laws (now that they love me after being nasty to me 15 out of 20 years). That was their problem.

So whenever a problem or change in plans arise - take a breath and ACCEPT what it is.
There is another way - fight it and have a fight! But if it's reasonable, keep the peace with love and a positive response, and it will come back to you! I promise.

Now it's taco time.

Easy to get caught up in all the negativity!

2008-01-17T08:43:00.000-08:00

BUT DON'T DO IT...... Life is just too short to waste a moment being a sour ball. We all have problems. I am no exception. If it's not a CASH problem, health problem, family problem, car problem, work problem, then its a neighbor problem, etc. etc. etc. So what is your choice when problems arrive? I tried being miserable. It sucked, so I gave it up. Even when I slip a bit and allow all the negativity that is presented in the media to affect me -
it's not for long. I can't stand feeling horrible and so I remember to practice thinking in positive terms and remembering what mama used to tell me. "This too shall pass. Life is about change. Just when you think you can't take any more, something changes."
Take a breath. Practice finding the GOOD in something. Remember, it's your life, don't let life steal it from you. Start now. Take a breath and when you exhale, let all the problems fly out your fingertips. Do it again. YOU WILL BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE AND YOUR RESPONSE TO LIFE, if you JUST PRACTICE being in charge!

Not pie in the sky. The truth. I face the challenge of aging and it could suck....not happening in my world. I am still glad just to be alive and kicking. Change your day by changing your thinking - NO MATTER what CHALLENGE you face.
YOU CAN DO IT!

A "mini break"

2007-12-21T12:27:00.000-08:00

Stop for a moment and sit back in your chair. Take one of those deep breaths in through the nose, and exhale from the mouth. Do it a few times. Remember: when stress enters we slow our breathing down - almost stop when we are angry! As you breathe think "I am relaxing myself, slowing my heart rate, lowering my blood pressure, maintaining optimum oxygen so I can think better, and giving myself and the only place I have to live (my body) - a few moments of regeneration!"

Believe me - it will do all those things for you. After a few breaths, stretch your arms up in the air, blink your eyes several times, wiggle your toes and if you need to take a bathroom break - don't put it off! Do it now. The walk will do you good anyway and get that oxygen moving through the body again.

NO STRESS is worth your life! It will all work out somehow. Don't add to your problems by stressssssssssing out!

CREATE a wonderful day, and better yet, a great life for yourself. I really care!

How do I relieve stress during this busy time?

2007-12-12T12:44:00.000-08:00

1. I remember to breathe! Breathing can calm you down, lower your heart rate, make you think more intelligently, and help any pain you might have to diminish. That is just a partial list of the good things that will happen to you when you remember to use your oxygen. It's a gift. Try holding your breath for 4 minutes and see how precious your oxygen is to your life!

2. Prioritize - Make sure that the tasks you are trying to accomplish don't cause you
to loose your temper with those people in your life you are trying to please! People first (LOVE), all the other stuff next.

3. Loosen the old thought that Christmas is about "presenting" a great dinner table,
buying the best gifts, or decorating the house with a million lights. It's not. It's about LOVE LOVE LOVE. For us Christians it is the time we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, our Savior. For non-Christians it can be a lovely time to celebrate family and the spirit of giving. Don't diminish one moment with frustration and anger. Take it easy...take a breath!

4. Don't forget to give yourself a hug once in a while. You work hard and you know it. Count small blessings we skip over each day. I was shopping and looked up and saw an awesome sight-so I took out my little camera and captured it (photo on the right). What a blessing to see such beauty!

Have a wonderful holiday season and DON'T spend it drinking too much. You loose your spirit when it is saturated with booze. Yes, I have a drink now and then - but I
am in charge; not the alcohol. Be safe. Be YOURSELF!

Quick thoughts

2007-11-28T17:31:00.000-08:00

A collage of thoughts for you...busy time of year!

Turns out sitting up straight is actually bad for your back. Sitting at a 90 degree angle puts pressure on the lower back-enough to squeeze fluid from the disks that cushion vertebrae. Adjust the height of your chair so your hips are 3 to 4 inches higher than your knees. Recline slightly, with a small pillow behind your lower back, so you backbone is at a 135-degree angle to your thighs. These conclusions were found in Scotland as researches took MRI scans of 22 volunteers.

You can learn from your children, be led by them, keep young through their eyes, and get many blessings in return from loving and guiding them.

Water: First thing in the morning drink 12 oz. Your body loses fluid stores overnight, which can make your mind foggy. Star the day with H20 and it might keep you from seeking out coffee or tea -at least cut back or dilute. Drink 30 meals before meal to help you fill up a bit. German study- drink 50 oz. of cold water a day-can help you burn up extra 50 cals per day-5lbs. a year, without exercising. metabolism boost due to extra effort needed to raise the water’s temp to 98.6F.

Interesting -students who drink too much may be setting themselves up for heart problems.
AMA excessively - double levels of C-reactive protein, a biological marker for inflammation associated with higher chance of cardiovascular problems. (heavy drinking defined: 3 or more alcholic drinks at least 3 days week or at least 5 drinks two days of week. Moderate: 2-5 drinks at one time, one or two days week. CRP levels on heavy MORE THAN DOUBLED, placing them in zone associated with moderate risk of heart disease More studies on way-still, setting up a dangerous pattern. Not to mention “date rape drug”, blackouts, risky behavior-aids, pregnancy, drinking and drive, turn into big A holes!

Hope you are using your wits and not over eating throughout the holidays. Take a bite of everything but don't be a pig. It's your body - the only place you have to live! Whatever is on the plate is NOT TO DIE FOR!

Blessings and love!

Unexpected trauma II - the continuing story:)

2007-11-14T08:41:00.000-08:00

I could have been upset when I was getting ready to serve dinner to my husband. One
of the baked potatoes decided to BLOW UP! Of course I had just cleaned the oven, and I
was very hungry.

I have no idea why it blew up. In all the years I've baked potatoes and there have been thousands (no lie), I've never had this happen!

So my stress management technique: Laugh. It actually was funnier than upsetting...I
opened the oven and there was my potato (of course it was mine, my hubby was starving)
all over the oven. :)

I reckoned that I wasn't supposed to have the potato as I always use too much butter and sour cream, and I am trying to loose a few pounds before the holidays. Dinner was still great, and I was not "over-stuffed", nor did I feel guilty.

So when something happens that could be unexpected trauma, but it's really not life altering, take it with a sense of humor. Laughter saves many a day!

USE IT - laughter is free and always cheers up those around you. Besides, it's fun.

Unexpected Trauma

2007-11-11T10:18:00.000-08:00

Ok, this is a "little" trauma, but it could have been WAY BIGGER if I had let it!
Several months ago my husband bought me a new Schwinn sidewinder bike (designed particularly for women). A couple of days ago I put it in my vehicle and went to a bike trail and rode. It felt great. I do that as often as I can.

When I got home I took the bike out and as I sat it down the phone rang. I quickly opened the kick stand and ran for the phone....last time I'll do that:).

By the time I got there no one was on the line, so I used the restroom and thought I'd
run a few pressing errands. When I came back out the garage door I didn't see the bike so never thought a thing about it! Obviously the kick stand wasn't fully opened and the bike was laying on the ground.

I jumped in the vehicle and backed up - right over my new bike! THUD! I thought I had wrecked it! I did cry (crying is good as it cleans out the tear ducts) - then I called my husband and told him.

He was not mad, but felt terrible I had been crying. He said it's okay - "Stuff happens". We'll just get it fixed." I was fortunate as I know some men can be nasty
about things like that. (Just to clear this up: I don't accept material things being more important than people, so if he'd been upset about the cost, I would have dealt with it differently-but peacefully:) War never ends, as we see all over the world!

Anyway, I felt better, will be more careful next time, and am prayerful and happy it wasn't a child or adult! I will be more careful and that is my lesson learned.

Have a wonderful day and you be careful too!

Think about it.....

2007-11-06T12:07:00.000-08:00

When was the last time you lit a candle in the day time? Have you played any warm and cozy music just for you? Pick a rhythm that makes you sway to it.

When was the last time you stood outside? Just stood. Quietly listening, looking, smelling all that is around you, for all these things are life and have a place in this world. Accept that and you will learn to love all things, because all things will change according to the light and love you share.

I took a picture of the moon before sun up this morning. There was a star way above it. I didn't really see just shadows from the tree branches. When I put it in photo shop I just changed a few things and now I can see the branches too.

Do something different today. Walk down the stairs instead of using the elevator.
One day I watched a group of Canadian geese flying in perfect formations. I watched them until they were gone. I was in the Costco parking lot. I heard them and just
looked up and paid attention to them. It was beautiful.

When I looked back down I realized there were four or five people standing near to me and we were all watching together.

It's your day. Take a breath and ENJOY!

Right now - do this for YOURSELF, please!

2007-11-04T14:47:00.000-08:00

Since you are sitting down just push your chair back for a moment and press your shoulders down and back. Make that posture count for good oxygen intake. Now hold the abdominals in and take a few deep breaths. Breathe in through the nose, and out through the mouth.

Slowly again - in through the nose, and out through the mouth. Two or three more mindful breaths remembering we need oxygen to live and good breaths make our thinking
clearer. When you exhale you visualize all the negative thoughts you hold within fall down to the fingertips and dissipate.

Now turn your neck to the right and hold for a moment. Now back to center and then to the left and hold. Bring your head back to center and let the right side of your head fall towards the right shoulder. Hold a few moments. Now back to center and lay the left side of your head to the left shoulder. You'll feel the stretch on each side and this is good.

Roll your shoulders back in circles a few times, then roll them forward.

Blink your eyes quickly 10-20 times and close them. Rub your fingertips together until they feel warm and lay them on your eyes. Take in two more mindful inhalations and exhalations.

Open your eyes and SMILE! You have done something wonderful for yourself and it didn't take that long at all! Now resume whatever it was you were doing and remember someone out here on line REALLY CARES!

Be careful what you dwell upon in thought or vision

2007-11-02T11:00:00.000-07:00

TRUE FACT the things we think about repeatedly, and the things our eyes behold really have an affect on us!

You know this innately. For instance, children watching violence does affect their
thought process. It will desensitize the horror of violence and make it more acceptable in their minds.

We create brain cells according to what we see and hear habitually....and the thinking does become altered accordingly.

An old Cherokee tale explains it quite beautifully:

An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice...

"Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt great hate for those who have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It's like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die."

"I have struggled with these feelings many times. It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.

But...the other wolf... ah! The littlest thing will send him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all of the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing."

"Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eyes and asked, "Which one wins, Grandfather?"

The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, "The one I feed."

So pay attention to what you FEED your mind and the minds of your family and those you share life with daily. We can help change the world if we work at it from within our own minds!

CREATE a beautiful day!

FAMILY visits can be Fun and not Stressful!

2007-10-13T10:04:00.000-07:00

We recently had a family of five stay with us for almost three weeks. The guest room was used and the office was full of children on the floor. The small kitchen was always fragrant with something cooking, and the table squeezed us all in for meals. Every chair was used in the living room, and someone usually was patiently waiting for a shower or to use the toilet.

We had a ball! Would you like to know how? We were as polite to each other as we would have been to strangers. We picked up our own messes and helped share in the responsibility of cooking, cleaning and doing laundry. No one took advantage of anyone else, and when the children began to squabble - the parents / or grandparents attended to resolve the problem instead of ignoring because of adult conversation.

No one drank alcohol. Let me repeat that: NO ONE DRANK ALCOHOL! No I am not a prude and yes I do have a glass or wine or a drink once in a while. But this is what I've learned over the years:

If no one drinks while at a family gathering, misunderstandings WILL NOT happen. Children will not be left on their own. Arguments will NOT happen.

I've seen it so many times in "past" days. Keep in mind. Alcohol is a drug and if affects everyone differently. Most can handle a drink or two, but many simply cannot.
There is always (guaranteed) one who gets mad or upset or just plain drunk and stupid.

Don't take that chance with your family - or anyone else's for that matter. You will remember the gathering with love and joy. Keep in mind also - children LEARN what they see and hear - and they see and hear MUCH MORE than you will ever know....until perhaps it's too late.

Have fun. Stay away from alcohol at your next family visit and you will be part of the pleasure, not the problem!

Honest!

A quick post - CELL PHONES

2007-09-18T17:01:00.000-07:00

Just a small stress management technique!

If yours is stolen or lost......do you have a hard copy with a list of all the numbers available?

Yes, I know you can get them from email, but would it not be simpler to have that hard copy?

My daughter's phone was stolen, so I know it can happen! Hold on to your "stuff", make hard copies of your numbers, and PRAY FOR PEACE!

GONE BUT NOT PERMANENTLY!

2007-09-15T16:37:00.000-07:00

I won't be posting for a while....at least I don't think I will. I have family coming to stay and I will try to be spending the majority of my time LOVING them! They are
moving from the east coast and I am so excited I could literally jump out of my skin!

I hope you don't forget to check back with me in a couple of weeks. In the meantime,
love those who are around you. Don't ignore them for someone on line!

Keep the priorities of life in order and remember to laugh, move, have fun and bless
your hearts!

I care!

I need to breathe!

2007-09-02T09:48:00.000-07:00

After reading the newspaper, news on the web, magazines, and so forth, I need to take
a breath and relax myself!

So much waste, so much dwelling on horrible incidents and potential disasters.
So right now, and I hope you join me, I am going to take in a few deep, mindful breaths.

As I do so, I am going to visualize all the trauma, all that which I CANNOT do anything about, leaving with my exhalation. This is not to "deny" problems, but to attend to
my own well-being. For if I am to do ANYTHING about ANYTHING, I must empower myself
with positive thoughts and strong intellect.

In breathing my inhalation I think about drawing in fresh oxygen, getting it to my brain (which needs 50% more to think optimally), and regenerating my spirit and my body.

In breathing out I am letting negativity push out down my arms and through my fingertips, and I am releasing in order to think in more positive terms. That will enable me to "handle" what is happening in MY WORLD....and to touch, what I am able, in the world of others.

Another few minutes of mindful breathing and I am up from the computer and out to accomplish a few things, and enjoy the moments of my life. I hope you do the same.

Fill your mind with positive thoughts...

2007-08-23T08:05:00.000-07:00

and be grateful for all the small blessings we take for granted every day! We so forget to appreciate all that is given to us without asking!

To walk, to talk, to have food on the table, to love, to be able to love, to breathe
freely and enhance your life in doing so, even to be able to use an indoor toilet!

Sounds silly, but take away the "small" blessings and our lives would echo with so
much less joy than we have now.

And remember.....DWELL on positive things. Pay attention to anything that will feed your mind with WHO you want to be, and WHAT you want out of this life. Drop the negative and push away nasty garbage that is fed to us daily.

The following is just a small blurb from an email I received this morning. I think it is worth posting:

"Sometimes we are so busy adding up our troubles that we forget to count our blessings.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life, for better or for worse.
God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way. Look for God in others.
The best and most beautiful things cannot be seen or touched - they must be felt with the heart ~ Helen Keller
Happy moments, praise God.
Difficult moments, seek God.
Quiet moments, worship God.
Painful moments, trust God.
Every moment, thank God."

CREATE A WONDERFUL DAY!

Sometimes being still is the best to manage it all

2007-08-21T19:02:00.000-07:00

To the right of this brief post is a blue sky and cloud for you. I was going to the market after a rain and the sky was so blue and the cloud so white - I felt like I
needed to snap it......it might never happen again! ENJOY!

Money that isn't there

2007-08-17T20:52:00.000-07:00

When you are stretching to meet the demands financially, when you have unexpected expense, when you just can't figure out what you are going to do.......

Take a breath! Say a prayer. Take another breath.

You know, you can only do the best that you can. Circumstances change momentarily.
One moment I had a bit of money coming in....the next, I broke my tooth ($750.00),
have to pay a prepayment penalty ($2,800.00), have to pay back money ($400.00) the
state overpaid my hubby on unemployment last winter.....and so forth and so on!

That is lots of money for unexpected expense (THIS WEEK!). So you know what I did when I found out?

I took a breath! Said a prayer, maybe it was 20 prayers. Took another breath and thought, "Doing the best we can. It will all work out somehow. Not going to let money destroy our lives. Won't do it!"

I feel better. Truly. Try the techniques. PRACTICE them as we are creatures of habit and will get into the habit of thinking in positive terms.

Have a wonderful weekend no matter what! Love on somebody. Enjoy your life!
Your health will be better for it, your family will, and you will feel better about it all. HONEST.

Urgent for all parents!

2007-08-14T18:01:00.000-07:00

www.ToyRecall.biz is just one site to check. Mattel is recalling millions of toys that are potentially deadly for the little ones. You've probably heard, but just in case,
please check this out for the safety of your children!

Wasn't going to post, but our children are so helpless and dependent on our decisions...protect them, and God bless them!

Whatever you are doing right now............

2007-08-14T11:46:00.000-07:00

TAKE A 60 SECOND BREAK TO REFRESH AND REGENERATE!
Sit back from the desk. Take a deep breath inhaling though the nose, and exhaling through the mouth. Do it again and think: "Whatever my challenge, I will approach it refreshed in one minute, knowing I will do the best I can."

Take another breath. This time as you exhale, visualize all the negative thoughts you may harbor, and all the past anger or disapointment you may feel - flying out your fingertips into oblivion.

Now stretch your arms up overhead, clasping your hands together, as you lean back in your chair slightly. Put your hands behind your head and gently lift the head elongating, the neck and holding the weight of your head in your hands. Release.

Wiggle your toes and fingers and take another breath! Point your toes away from you. Press the heels away from you. Do this several times.

Roll your wrists one direction, then the opposite direction. Now blink your eyes several times.

If you NEED to use the restroom DON'T HOLD IT AND WAIT! THAT IS TERRIBLE FOR YOUR BODY. GO NOW.

Other wise, one more mindful breath and smile (No particular reason - it just feels good.) You could do this maybe once an hour. That's only 8 times in 8 hours....only 8 minutes. You are worth it and you will be better for it!

I won't be posting for a couple of days, so in the meantime - ENJOY your work, enjoy your play, and PLEASE enjoy each moment of every day. Time is accelerating - make it precious time!

Truth that does not waiver

2007-08-12T14:27:00.001-07:00

“The relation that exists between the mind and body is very intimate. When one is affected, the other sympathizes. The condition of the mind affects the health to a far greater degree than many realize. Many of the diseases from which men suffer are the result of mental depression. Grief, anxiety, discontent, remorse, guilt, distrust, all tend to break down the life forces and to invite decay and death....

Courage, hope, faith, sympathy, love, promote health and prolong life. A contented mind, a cheerful spirit, is health to the body and strength to the soul.”

Ellen G. White
1827-1915

Tale of Two Wolves

2007-08-11T11:36:00.000-07:00

The first exercise I teach, regardless if I am teaching high intensity aerobics, low-key exercise, relaxation, or even dance....is to EXERCISE THE MIND. These two short tales go hand
in hand with using our brains and finding magic can happen to each of us, if we just EXERCISE our powers and believe! CREATE a wonderful weekend! I care:) Thank you for sharing my sweet spiritual friend and sister - Lynn.

-Native American-

A grandfather was telling his grandson, "There is a conflict
inside of me and in every one of us. Two wolves live within me.

One wolf is jealous, angry, covetous, rude, disrespectful,
lazy, unkind, resentful. The other wolf is kind, loving,
grateful, compassionate, happy, helpful. They are battling
within each of us"

The grandson asks, "Which one will win?"
The grandfather thoughtfully answers, "The one you feed."
**************************************************************
Tale of unknown origin

A man who had been traveling a long way approaches the
gate to a small village. Sitting outside the gate is an
old, wrinkled woman.The man asks the woman "What kind of
people will I find here in this village?"

The woman answers "What kind of people did you find in
the last village you were in?" The man said, "They were
terrible people. Greedy, obnoxious, hateful, rude,
Thieves all of them. It was awful." "You will find the same
sort of people here then" she answered. And the man hung his
head, turned around and walked away.

Later that day another man who had also been traveling a
long way approaches the same gate to the same village
and sees the same old woman sitting outside the
gate. He asks, "What kind of people will I find in this
village?"

The woman in turns asks, "What kind of people did you
find in the last village you lived?" He said "They were
wonderful people! Kind, generous, thoughtful, helpful, loving
people. I hated having to leave."
The woman looked at the man and answered

"Then you will find the same sort of people here."
And the man happily walked through the gate into the
village.

Which wolf do you feed daily? What expectations of people
do you have?

How to handle UNEXPECTED expense!

2007-08-08T07:56:00.000-07:00

SAME OLD TECHNIQUE (but always effective).
First TAKE A BREATH.

One thing I have learned in this life is that just when the bills are paid and you might have a few dollars extra - SOMETHING jumps in to grab those bills!

It is exhausting, discouraging, makes us angry, and unfair! BUT WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?

Are you going to let money problems RUIN your life, your relationships, your family?
DON'T YOU DO IT! This too shall pass.

Whatever the problem a resolve will come if you maintain your cool. Remember, it's just one of those circumstances that happens and you STILL have the CHOICE of how to respond.

Here's an example: Yesterday I attended a workshop I could little afford. I am trying to create a business that is successful on the internet. They provided lunch, and just before the part I really wanted to hear, I bit down on a piece of uncooked rice and totally broke my tooth.

I had to excuse myself, go to the dentist, and was told "You need a crown. That will be $800.00 please!"

I took a breath. ALLOWED myself to be sad and discouraged for a few moments, and then took another breath. I arranged for payments, called my husband and told him I felt badly about the cost. He teased me for a minute and said, "Gosh you are expensive!" I responded by "But I'm worth it, huh?" He agreed. (Phew, got him fooled:).

Then I returned to the seminar. (Of course I didn't smile my normal big mouth smile...it looks terrible:). This morning I am so glad I picked a positive response.
You know life is going to hand you troubles year after year. That doesn't mean you have to CHOKE on them and ruin the MOMENTS of EACH DAY. All we have are these moments.

Happiness or another bill? I CHOOSE HAPPINESS....no matter what the cost!

Have a wonderful day. I care!

Is your neck tired and stiff?

2007-08-05T17:31:00.001-07:00

I love input from those who are also in the field of making us healthier
and stronger! Here's one I think works beautifully!

Try this:
"Breathe and sigh often, as you rest your left palm on your right shoulder.
Pull down from your shoulder to your breastbone (sternum) as your
fingers sink into those muscles.

Repeat 3 times. Switch sides and repeat."

It works and it feels wonderful and is soooooo good for you!
Thanks Lynn, you sweet little angel!

No matter how stressful your day may appear....

2007-08-03T06:38:00.000-07:00

REMEMBER: We only have the moment we are in right now! Can't change the past, only
can dream of the future, but what we have is HERE and NOW.

Use your moments with love and compassion. Be forgiving of others and take many of the tasks that seem so important - lightly, with confidence that you can only do so much, and with a sense of humor.

My love and prayers to those lost spirits in Minnesota, and those around the world....
and my love too, goes to families who must learn to go forth and survive.

CREATE your life from this moment forth!

Electronic devices and STRESS!

2007-08-01T09:30:00.001-07:00

I read that the average American has at least 26 electronic devices between their home and place of employment, and they are literally DRIVING US CRAZY!

Yes, they are wonderful and helpful. But in all honesty, haven't you sometimes felt
like picking up your computer and throwing it? Haven't you cussed when the cell cut you off from an important conversation, or someone in traffic cut you off because they were busy using their hands to talk on their cell phone?

We all have endured STRESS caused by one of our electronic devices at one time or another. As wonderful as they are, we CANNOTallow an electronic "object" to control our emotions and our lives!

Here are a few tips to help when you feel like flushing one of these things down the toilet. (80% of respondents in a recent survey confessed to at least cursing out loud at a machine!)

1. Reboot and relax. Stop for a moment and drop your shoulders. I will guarantee under stress that they go up. When they do you limit circulation to the brain - and the brain needs 50% more oxygen to function optimally. So think, drop the shoulders, take a breath and remember you are restoring the flow of oxygen and blood so you can be calmer and think clearly.

2. When we stare at computers we deprive our eyes of tears. We blink less and our eyes become tired and dryer. When we age our eyes are dryer anyway, so this isn't good. Stop. Every 20 minutes or so look away from the screen for 20-30 seconds.
Blink your eyes a few times. You can even rub your fingers together until they are warm, close your eyes and place them on the lids. This will feel great and help to relax them.

3. Stop typing once in a while. Your hands take a beating. Shake them. Stretch them. Do a bit of self massage. Breathe into them. They work hard for you ALL day, not just at the computer!

4. TURN OFF THE CELL PHONE in the car! Cell phone use is the cause of many accidents. Cell phones are terrific for emergency use, or something that is critically important. But think. What did you do before adding this device to your life.

Probably no business while driving. No "emotions" caused by conversations. No
anger from other drivers because you aren't paying attention. Turn off the phone!
TAKE A MINI-VACATION........listen to your favorite music! Think, plan, just enjoy the drive if you can.

Okay, that's it for now. CREATE a beautiful day and remember: It's YOUR LIFE!
Save it, use it wisely, remember to laugh and smile. I care!

PAPERWORK NIGHTMARE!

2007-07-29T09:25:00.000-07:00

All of us deal with having more paperwork than we know what to do with these days. We
are afraid to throw anything out, but we don't have file drawers enough to keep it all.

This is a list I complied (after doing a bit of research) to help you get rid of excess paperwork lying around the house. Be sure to remember that when you dispose of "stuff", if you don't have any way to shed your things, you at least make sure names, numbers, etc. are REALLY minced up small.

Identity theft is no small problem to face, so guard yourself and your family.

Here is what you much keep for at least a good while, and perhaps forever:

1. Canceled checks that are related to tax deductions or major purchases. If you pull these checks out from the rest each month it will save you lots of time later. Also keep any charitable giving and medical expenses. You can file these in an envelope saying CHECKS for TAXES 2007.

2. Keep a file with purchase and sale documents, including IRS Form 2119 for every home you've owned.

3. Keep a file of capital home improvement costs. Routine repairs don't count. Only things like new roof, remodeled kitchen, etc.

3. Credit card records - keep for 6 years.

4. Health records are forever.

5. Contracts (even those paid) are to be kept for 7 years past the expiration date.

6. Investments, contributions to IRA's, and brokerage accountings.

7. A will. (VERY important for your family - even if handwritten and witnessed by
three people is better than nothing!).

8. IRS returns. The IRS has three years to examine your return, and six years if there is a substantial under-reported income.

TRUST ME ON THIS ONE - my husband and I were audited about eight years ago and I had to come up with a TON of paperwork.

My bookkeeper made huge mistakes and we were fined, both for the errors and every day
they hadn't been paid! We had no idea we owed money. She didn't have to account for a penny of it, not even a fine. If someone does your books make sure they are
qualified.

These are the papers you should make sure to keep in a safe deposit box or someplace very safe.

1. Deeds and records of ownership. Documents as to the condition of your home and a written inventory of goods in it.

2. Birth, marriage and death certificates. Also passports.

3. Stock and bond certificates

4. List of all insurance policies and agents.

5. Adoption papers, divorce decrees and child custody agreements.

Even if you don't have a lock box to keep them in, make copies of these items and store them separately in case you need them.

YEAH! Now we are down to the toss out stuff!

1. Expired insurance policies.

2. Non-tax related checks (but they have to be more than three years old:(.

3. Records for items you no longer own. (Cars, boats, etc.)

4. Pay stubs going back more than two years.

That's pretty much it. If anyone out there can think of anything else, please drop me a comment or email and I will post an addendum to these lists!

Have fun and get to shredding and trashing all the useless garbage!

How NOT to start the day

2007-07-26T15:34:00.000-07:00

Check out the photo on the right. I got up at 6AM - brushed my teeth (in order to kiss my husband goodbye. Drank a glass of water (to dilute the acid in my two cups of coffee), and proceeded to spill the coffee all over the table, the chair cushion, and the floor I had just cleaned the night before!

So you know what I did? I LOVE the fact I teach stress management - it's made my life paradise! I looked at it and thought: "You know, it's a good thing mama taught me to be flexible and accept change. We never know just what will happen."

I looked at the mess again and actually giggled. That wasn't the way I intended to start the day. Tried to get the dog to lick it up, but dogs are smart-they don't like coffee:).

So - I poured another cup - got the mop out and began the cleanup. Washed the cushion and finished by dry mopping the floor so I wouldn't slip and break my fanny!

All in all, it was nothing. It was rather funny as it reminded me we have little control over what happens to us, but ultimate control over our response. I love it.
Was kind of like a Saturday night live skit....

It's not WHAT happens to you, but HOW you respond that changes your life and the lives of those around you!

Keep hold of that sense of humor and all will be okay. Have a WONDERFUL day where
ever you are and whatever time of day it is! It's your choice. I care!

When you reach an impass - hit the wall!

2007-07-25T15:24:00.000-07:00

STOP and take a breath. I shall do it with you as I hit that wall a few moments ago. If you feel yourself getting upset, angry, or impatient with a job you are doing - WHATEVER - it is the time to MAKE CHANGES! Not tomorrow, right now!

Take a breath again! (If it isn't now, when this happens this technique will always work.) Control your response, your intellect, and your happiness with your oxygen. You are an oxygen machine and it works! Try it.

The second thing you do is to get up and walk away. Stretch. Move to a different task. Do something to divert your attention from this mind boggling event that is chemically changing who you are!

You may say "I can't - I have responsibilities!" Well, unless it is life threatening to you or someone close to you, it is LIFE THREATENING in the long run of it unless you CONTROL what is happening!

You can't control all the circumstances happening, but you can ALWAYS control your response.

Is the thing that is frustrating you important enough "to die for" - I think not!
Re-evaluate what you are doing and make necessary changes (even if just for a few moments to gather your wits about you, and make a plan). You will be relieved that you've done this, and so will your family!

Remember: Sometimes when you let loose on those you love THEY ARE NOT ACTUALLY THE TARGET. They just happened to be in the way and catch your wrath. Think about it and be flexible enough to try these techniques. You will be glad you did.

I know I am. I am now relaxed enough, regenerated, and calm enough to return to what I was doing. I am actually building a new website and I hit that wall.

I feel better. Hope you do too. I actually care!

If you are "under pressure".........

2007-07-24T07:04:00.001-07:00

........just remember: You can only do so much in one day! Believe me, whatever doesn't get done will be waiting for you tomorrow.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to achieve perfection, to accomplish all our tasks, to be the perfect parent. You know what I mean. Well let it go! None of us will achieve perfection in this lifetime.

What we can work up to is a heart attack if we take all the stress placed in front of us DEAD serious. I don't mean to slack and procrastinate. I simply mean, step back and take a breath. Appraise what can ACTUALLY be accomplished this day. Step forward now into a realistic picture.

Don't let others push your buttons. Guard your life and your heart. You are the only one who can do this, and remember, you only have one place to live - YOUR BODY!

If you screw it up by overplaying every day, and suddenly die from a heart attack...or go insane, how good will that be towards all you are working to achieve?????

Don't be blind and say THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN TO ME." It can certainly happen to any of us if we don't take care of ourselves and let stress run us over!

Please stop throughout the day and take a breath. Remember this is your life, and
return to your days with a more positive attitude, keeping in mind - You can only
do so much in one day!

I mean it. If you have a boss that is trying to put you into an early grave, perhaps you should re-think things a bit!

TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOU WILL BE TAKING CARE OF THOSE YOU LOVE BY DOING SO!

Einstein's Wisdom

2007-07-22T08:45:00.000-07:00

Ethical axioms are found and tested not very differently from the axioms of science. Truth is what stands the test of experience.

Summer Rain

2007-07-18T10:03:00.000-07:00

It is very unusual in my hometown to get even one drop of summer rain. Last night I awoke to the sound of rain pouring on my roof. A down burst which dropped me back into my dream state with a smile on my face.

This morning it's still raining, and so after weeks of having the house closed up due to escalating temperatures (100-118), I immediately got up and opened all the windows. As I sit here writing I can hear the rain still coming down. The trees are much greener and have a luster due to the water cleaning all the leaves.

The sound of traffic has diminished and only a few heartiest of birds are singing the song welcoming dawn. It's too much temptation to resist and so I will pour a cup of hot coffee and sit on the steps just thanking my God for these drops from heaven. Water is so cleansing.

Time flies and two days have passed. Temperatures are warming. We broke two records-a low in temperature only passed in 1932, and rain amount - we got 1.25 inches and the last time it rain any amount was in 1986 (a pittance compared to this!).

I went kayaking and everything smelled fresh and the sky was clear and deep blue. The water was cooler, but I still swam and really enjoyed the outdoors.

REMEMBER: Being outdoors in fresh air and away from the city is healing! Do it if you can:).

A couple of "stress management" techniques my mama left with me, for you.
1. Never leave a room without something in both hands! It really helps as you are
always taking care of business, and it doesn't take much to get into the habit of doing this. My husband swears I take 50 things in my hands! I don't.:)

2. Double bag your trash cans. I stopped buying trash can liners as the expense was adding up. IF your stores still use plastic bags, use those to line the trash cans, and put in two or three so that when you are rushed you can just grab a bag, and your can is ready to go already! I swore (when mama was alive) that I would never do that, but you know what - listen to mama. These older folks have lived and know what they are talking about for sure!

Now take a breath. Press your shoulders back and DOWN. Take another breath! Stretch a bit - arms up in the air. Wiggle your body all over and SMILE! Someone
out here in BlogLand LOVES YOU - for real!

EVERYONE "SAYS" THEY WANT TO MANAGE STRESS MORE EFFECTIVELY

2007-07-17T12:16:00.000-07:00

OVER 80% of medical visits originate from stress induced reactions upon the human body! Stress changes chemical combinations within us and drives us to the "fight or flight" stage, which in turn accelerates wear and tear on the organs, muscles and all the inner workings of the body. It also plays havoc with our minds, and can literally be debilitating!

This culture is the instant gratification culture. We want what we want, and we want it now! In learning to TRULY change your life, and MANAGE any stress, you must dedicate time to practice techniques, and be consistent. Does that sound so very difficult?

Herein lies the problem. This culture has us going so many directions at once, and believing the list of duties MUST be completed, that we are driving ourselves mad!

Each day has 1,440 minutes in it....that is 525,600 minutes in one average year. Ten
minutes a day devoted to stress management education and practice still leaves you
1,430 minutes a day....and 521,950 minutes a year to devote to all these other tasks you deem important enough to leave you frazzled, irritated, and less than feeling wonderful! Come on now, that doesn't make sense.

Here is the choice: 1. Watch your stress levels keep rising with no resolve in sight. Prime your body for a heart attack and your life for constant turmoil. 2. Love yourself and your family enough to take 10 minutes a day to CHANGE YOUR LIFE and the lives of those around you.

I think the second choice is worth 10 minutes of consistent practice on managing stress. You WILL FIND YOU LIKE IT! You WILL FIND YOU WILL INCREASE YOUR practice
time as you get "in the habit". We are creatures of habit and we can develop habits easily. Why not a pittance in time to develop a life style that will enhance your mind and the health of your body simultaneously?

Whether you try my CD or someone else's, in my heart of hearts I WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE BETTER FOR ALL CONCERNED! Of course I believe you should pay a one time fee for the CD and let me help you create new brain cells, and be rid of negative thoughts and actions. I charge much more than that for 1 hour of personal training. I personally selected the original music, and put 3 relaxations on the CD - for "newcomers" and for those familiar with it all. Over 30 years I have seen people change their demeanor to an empowered and calm personality - miracles can happen.

Please go to my new website to check it out. I have a couple of samples of the CD you can listen to, a couple of articles and my complete biography.

http://www.stressmanagementmagic.com or go to "links to my resources" on the right of this page.
My husband calls me "The human happy face" - I practice what I teach :) and I want this joy and empowerment to be YOURS! I TRULY CARE!

School and it's many challenges for YOU

2007-07-16T13:30:00.000-07:00

Ahhhh, school is near and parents are all handling it differently! Some can hardly wait to send the children back to the learning environment. They envision a few hours a day with no one saying, “Mom (or dad), I’m bored”, “I’m hungry”, or even, “Can you take me to my friend’s house?”

Others are dreading the demands that children in school can bring home to the parents. The cost of books and supplies, new clothing, the tasks of shuttling children to school activities and sporting events, the required PTA, helping with homework, and all the parental duties that go along with those who have children in school.

When you begin to feel yourself paralyzed by “dread” of things to come,
do exactly what you are doing right now! Take a moment or two to do something for yourself.

Whether it’s reading a quick article, just sitting still for a few moments, or taking an unplanned trip to the store to pick up a few things you need or want!

You are DIVERTING your own attention from these dreaded fears surrounding “school is upon us”, and concentrating on something else for the moment.

Diversion is good. The definition, simply put, is “an instant of turning something aside from it’s course”. We are only capable of thinking about one thing at a time!

This does not suggest that you will never need to think about the challenges you face, but it will give you just a bit of time (while doing one of these activities or something you choose) to take a breath! When you breathe, your intellect is sharper. When you are stressed out you slow your breathing without even knowing it, which in turn stresses you out even further.

This is the bottom line. You will never complete the list of things that need to be done. When that happens it means you are dead! There are
on going demands that will bury you though, if you don’t realize that
the only way to be in charge is by making the best choices in handling
things, and then letting go.

95% of all that you spend your life worrying about NEVER COMES TO FRUITION! Honestly! Worrying about not being able to “take care of all that is necessary”, is simply a waste of your time and energy.

Prioritize, delegate, stay in the moment. You know what needs to be done and it’s about time you give yourself credit for handling so much already!

Remember that life always gives us stress to manage. We may not have the choice in what happens to us, or the demands that challenge us, but we ALWAYS have a choice in the response to these things.

It's not necessary to implode, or explode. Loosing your cool will only worsen the scenario. When you find yourself in the position of having just too much to do, perhaps in too little time, and there is NO WAY to change it - If you are the person in charge of doing the multitude of tasks... then the only thing you can do is ACCEPT IT.

The truth is, unless you have someone you can “pass the ball to”, you’d better start using positive affirmations to create those brain cells necessary to take care of business.

Don’t let the negatives overpower you. Take a breath and think: “I will get things done to the best of my ability.” “I will take each moment as it comes and remember that I am capable and dedicated to finding resolve to challenges.” “I will remember that I can only do so much in one day, one hour, one moment.” “I will remember that my children and all the children who’s paths I cross will look to my attitude and demeanor as either horrible or positive, and they will learn from me.”

If you are a person of faith then truly the first thing that should be done is asking for help. Just as your children look to you for help and ask repeatedly for it, pray often! Of course with prayer must come letting go and letting God oversee your needs. That’s faith.

If you do not believe then your only choice is to decide whether you want to let things drive you crazy, or whether you will simply do what you have to do! Affirm your capabilities and breadth of intellect sprinkled with the right amount of emotion.

Get ready for a WONDERFUL school year. Anticipate all the positive things that will enhance your children’s lives, and remember this time is fleeting. One day soon you will recall the excitement of these days, wishing you could do it all again. Make them calm and joyous. Make your children glad to be alive and excited about it all.

YOU CAN DO IT! Take a breath and rock and roll.

Airline passenger? Be prepared!

2007-07-14T17:12:00.000-07:00

The first day of my trip I stood 7 1/2 hours in line. My flight was canceled. So here are a few tips to help if your day comes and circumstances radically change for you!

Of course, ALWAYS take a deep breath or two. The additional oxygen will help you to calm down and keep your brain thinking optimally.

Remember: whatever the circumstance - whether you like it or not - though you may
not have the control to change things, you always have the CHOICE to respond in a positive manner. After all, if you CANNOT CHANGE THINGS, ACCEPT IT - and find a way to put a positive slant on the situation. You can always do that if you just try.

When you allow the "challenge" to upset you, you are simply wasting energy and actually making the situation worse! You will chemically change your body and can (ultimately) do damage to yourself by getting stressed out about something you haven't control over anyway!

Try to make reservations way a head of time. Request your specific seat. When through security, buy water and snacks and wear comfortable shoes. Keep your focus on the fact that the only thing you have control over is your attitude-your response.

You will really help yourself, and others, by using your oxygen, your intellect, and remembering if you are calm and relaxed it can change others to follow your example.

It's a beautiful day and I am home from my trip!

2007-07-14T12:37:00.000-07:00

Will be writing a new post today or tomorrow. Had a wonderful trip, but kind of trying at the airport the first day!
Will expound soon.

.... Take a breath! Take a moment to tell someone you love them! Hug someone today (even if it is hugging yourself:)!
Time is fleeting and it's time to enjoy the moment.

Vacation

2007-07-01T13:37:00.000-07:00

Hi all,

I am on vacation until July 17th! My darling husband is frying in the heat working hard, and I am 3,000 miles away, loving and hugging extended family, and learning to boogie board and surf. He rocks!

I am trying new activities I have NEVER done before. I may crash and burn but I'll give it my best try!

My posts may be kind of few and far between for this time. In the meantime, please
take care of yourselves and take time to breathe and enjoy each moment of your life!
Blessings to you all!

Two short poems by Mercy Richey - 1901

2007-06-25T12:37:00.000-07:00

These were written by a woman I never met. I helped a friend clean up her apartment after she passed on. My friend told me I could keep what I liked as she had no family.

The few things I kept are precious to me. I am not sure why. Her written thoughts were given as a gift to me and part of her Spirit now resides inside of me.

She wrote with heart and intellect: Hope you enjoy!

"The fabric of my life is gray - hard work in one small place.
I'll concentrate on trimming it, with lots of laughs for lace."

"We clean our houses every day, and throw the useless things away.
But often let our minds for years, be filled with foolish thoughts and fears."

For Sandi, my friend, and anyone else who may have stress to deal with this weekend!

2007-06-23T11:06:00.001-07:00

ANYONE WHO HAS CHILDREN must go through such varied stress over the years, sometimes it is almost mind warping. It happens to all parents, so take a bit of comfort in the fact we are not alone in learning to manage these stresses.

Keep in mind, sweet lady, that there could be MANY reasons you are feeling unusually stressed out about this problem. The week could have been more stressful than you realized, your hormones and body chemicals may be altered some by your concern. It does happen. The body responds to stress and will make it worse by changing!

When we are fearful about anything, we take smaller breaths - making our situation much worse. When we are shallow breathers, we get less oxygen to the brain, which affects our thoughts and decisions, and not in a positive manner. Our muscles and ligaments and even the organs within suffer from this lack of oxygen - which adds to the problem.

These things will help if you DO THEM MINDFULLY this weekend. That means whenever the worry starts taking over, flip from "emotion" based control to "intellect". What I mean is remember, you are in charge of your thoughts, so when that fear enters, think: "This is not productive. It is not good for me or my family. I will
not succumb to fear. I will use my intellect and make immediate changes for the better!"

May sound silly at first, but it works. Divert your attention by taking a couple of minutes alone (or if that is impossible, include the children in this "game"). Sit, straighten up a bit and breathe! Inhale slowly through the nose (which will give you needed oxygen and help you relax-REALLY, it's the physiology of the body); exhale
through the mouth slowly. As you exhale visualize all the negative thoughts and fear flying right out your fingertips. You are in charge. Do this for a couple of minutes minimum.

Whenever you start to fret again, DO IT AGAIN! It's your life. You have a family to care for, so CARE FOR YOU and be in the best frame possible. It takes a bit of practice to get in the habit but YOU and your family deserve the best! (If the kiddos are around and you play the "breathing game" - it will also teach them and help them in every way.) I promise.

Lastly, here are a few thoughts to ponder. Mama always said, "What's the worst that can happen? We have to handle it no matter what, so when you figure that out, then every incident above the worst can be handled too." Made sense to me.

FEAR doesn't change ANYTHING. It only does damage. Besides (and this is factual too), 95% of what we spend our lives fearing NEVER HAPPENS!

If you like, check out my website: http://www.stressmanagementmagic.com/
as there is a bit more there on fear.

Draw positive, healing thoughts to yourself. Think in terms that will pull good energy and healing power towards you and YOUR FAMILY! Some may think this silly, but we have magical powers yet untapped. They work!

My first line of defense is my faith. It's tough, but I try to always leave the results of a scenario in God's domain...that's faith. I pray, pray, pray. I will pray for you and your son, and family. Remember, we can only change some circumstances in our lives. Some are out of our control.

What we can change is our RESPONSE to those circumstances. We can empower ourselves and our families by our positive, loving, and confident response! I have confidence enough in you to know YOU CAN HANDLE IT! Keep the faith my friend. I KNOW you will create a GOOD weekend for yourself and family.

Happiness Hog

2007-06-21T16:19:00.000-07:00

You bet I am! We all have a right to be happy in our life here on earth as humans!
Misery runs like a raging river and it's out of control. It's reported on every news broadcast on television, in the newspapers and magazines, the radio, and yes on my beloved internet!

There is something in the air that seems to draw individuals to tragedy. Whether it is because we feel empathy, or compassion, or even are secretly grateful it didn't happen to us, misery sells!

I am not buying.. Let me say it again I AM NOT BUYING!

It is a fact that the things we dwell upon will eventually become our lives and eat us up from the inside out. I have a friend who split up with her mate after 27 years. He was terrible to her. Violent, bossy, and selfish. She can recalls easily his negative traits. Yet she mourns. I pray she will begin to retrain her mind, filling it with new potential scenarios and positive thoughts.

It does make a huge difference. What we think about, what we roll over and over in our minds, can become our lives. I knew one wonderful woman who spent over twenty years being miserable without the need!

When you hear all the horror, all the terrible things, it's ok to review what is happening. Pray, do something within the realm of your world to help, discuss it with a friend, but when you've done what can be done - release it.

Take a deep breath in through the nose, and exhale through the mouth. Do it as you inhale as if you are filling a balloon from the bottom upward. As you exhale, let the balloon collapse from the bottom upward, and let the worries fly out your fingertips into oblivion.

You HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY. If you suck in all the problems it will weaken your physical, mental, and spiritual being. Use the breathing technique above after you've done what you can do....it will all work out as it will......

Remember: to be your best self, to be the best for your family, friends, and peers,
to do the best you can to KEEP misery from happening - YOU must be able to be in charge of your mind, body and spirit.

YOU CAN DO IT! (Nobody else can do it for you! :)

Male climacteric

2007-06-18T19:07:00.000-07:00

Hey guys (around age 35 +) notice ANY of these symptoms?

* Decreased mental quickness and sharpness
* Decreased energy, strength and endurance
* Less desire for activity and exercise
* Decreased muscle and increased body fat
* Mild to moderate depression and irritability
* Depression and/or loss of eagerness and enthusiasm for daily life
* Decreased sex drive
* Decreased sexual function and/or sensitivity

Before I continue I want to clarify something. This information is not to belittle or injury anyone! It is not shameful to experience NORMAL physiological changes- if we are lucky enough to age!

We’ve all heard of the menopause happening in women, but not too many of us have heard about a man’s challenge in facing this time.

All women hear is that men are scoundrels, screwed up, or just a mess all together. The reasons behind this (in most cases) are real, and they can be helped. That is why I want to share this with you.

The most happy men and women I know have “understanding” of each
other’s physical challenges. I say challenges because there is such a nasty misnomer about so many of the natural changes men and women see in a lifetime. Knowledge is power, and I hope to empower you with the means to greater understanding, patience and peace

For women, it is the menopause, and for men it is “climacteric” (or andropause) , the corresponding time in the life of men 35 and older. The word climacteric comes from the Greek word klimakter, which means literally a rung of a ladder, or figuratively a critical point.

Climacteric is the l physiological process that marks the end of maturation and the beginning of new stages in life. It’s defining point normally takes place without any external influences. The changes in personality and a man’s actions often reflect a decline in male hormones. There is life after the climacteric period!

There are some who feel that hormone replacement therapy helps. The body declines in testosterone, thyroid, human growth hormone, and DHEA. I also TRULY BELIEVE that when people (male or female) are aware
of what is happening to their bodies, it is much easier to find a plan
to help the scenario.

When I entered the menopause , younger than most at 34, my mama had told me all about it. She swore that much of it was “placed” in our heads by well meaning authorities that assume everyone will experience the same symptoms and problems. This is simply NOT TRUE!

We are all different, have different background, genes, health histories,
and face these things individually. I truly believe in the power of mind over matter, and know that the way we tackle a challenge depends on our mental state.

I knew a fellow once who was hurt in an accident. He kept thinking, “I’m really hurt. I won’t heal.” The doctor’s couldn’t find anything and attributed it to possible nerve damage. I think he “thought himself” permanently disabled, and is this way after 20 years.

I was in a serious accident and was told I wouldn’t heal and do the same work. Well, I believe in prayer, but I also refused to believe that I would be permanently kept from being me. It took time, but gratefully, everything healed and I kept on doing what I do!

Back to you guys. Don’t think, “I am getting old” , “there is nothing I can do, etc.” BS. Start thinking in positive terms and realizing that there are hormone treatments, natural therapies, and mind over matter works, if you work at it!

Besides, most older guys I know haven’t aged badly at all. In fact, it seems for men, that most men age beautifully and are still sexy and handsome - gray hair and all.

JUST BE AWARE THAT CHANGES YOU MAY BE FEELING MAY NOT BE BOREDOM IN A RELATIONSHIP, BEING WEARY OF A JOB, WANTING TO MOVE OR CHANGE SOMETHING........You may simply be going through something that is very natural and happens to most men at this point in their life. Chin up! Knowledge is power!

As for the women folk, I think we need to keep these things in mind and be supportive of the guys....just like I hope they will be for us!

Happy Father's Day to all you guys out there!

2007-06-17T10:42:00.000-07:00

IT'S A TOUGH JOB, AND NOT ALL GUYS ARE UP TO THE CHALLENGE......but for those of you who take it seriously (and there are plenty of you) - God bless you!

Too many people these days don't realize the important effect a father has on his children. You teach them patience through your example, and though just like HOMER SIMPSON, sometimes you feel like choking them (I say this with humor) , you forge a head day by day, experience by experience.

There is no master book specifically for guys on the complex functions fathering requires. Women multi-task because it's part of our nature. You guys learn to do and say things you never dreamed of as a young man. But that is LOVE:)

It's NOT ALWAYS genetic connection that makes a great father! Sometimes a step-father steps up and does magnificent work. My husband, for instance; he'd never had children and yet when we married he melded into the job of step-father like he was the children's own genetic father! He did a splendid job and the children adore him!

What it takes is love, dedication, developing extended patience, and unconditional loyalty to the job. We've all made mistakes as parents, so for you father's that think you aren't doing a good job - IF YOU ARE THERE for them - IF YOU LOVE THEM - IF YOU ARE TRYING, then accolades to you! Keep up the GREAT job!

Einstein Quote

2007-06-16T07:54:00.000-07:00

"Try to become not a man of success, but try rather to become a man of value."

Have a wonderful weekend. Treat yourself to some activity outside. Think about breathing. It's free and will heal your body and your mind! Whatever you do, also be grateful for just the fact that you are able to do it!

Share love with someone who needs it, for whatever love you give will return to you multiplied. Maybe not at the same instant, but it will be returned to you. I promise!

BE CAREFUL ABOUT THIS OVER THE COUNTER WEIGHT LOSS DRUG

2007-06-13T11:39:00.000-07:00

I know - it's barely on the market, but please be very careful. The name is Alli. I know the food and drug administration has approved it, but didn't they also approve
quite a few other things that NOW they are backing down and saying these same drugs are dangerous.

This drug is supposed to help you "loose weight while you sleep." DUH! You are not
eating while you sleep! It is supposed to help "along with exercise and diet." Well, DUH! Those two things alone will help you get to where you want to be health and weight wise.

The side effects include "gas and loose stools" - Nice. It also makes no claim to keep the weight off "long term."

In my humble but researched opinion - STAY AWAY FROM IT. Don't spend your money dreaming to loose as you sleep. Wake up.

Moderate exercise (as little at 20 minutes a day) and just slightly changing your calorie intake (drop 100-200 calories a day) - will REALLY help you achieve your goals.
Just be consistent and patient. There is NO quick fix!

Be safe with your choices for your body. I care!

Today's tips on staying robust and relaxed!

2007-06-12T16:34:00.000-07:00

TAKE A BREAK! TAKE A BREATH!

It's your life. Even if it is only for a couple of minutes. Stretch, move around,
and blink your eyes for 15 seconds. Now rub your hands together until they get warm
and place them on your eyes for a few seconds. Give those poor babies a rest for a minute!

We so abuse our bodies and forget to give them time to recover. PLEASE.....remember
to love your body (and not just it's shape or tan), but think: "My body is the only place I have to live. It works for me 24/7-even when I sleep it is regenerating.
I will get into the habit of taking a couple of minutes every hour during the day to let my body and mind rest."

I care!

WONDERFUL ADVICE! "How to stay YOUNG"

2007-06-11T08:41:00.000-07:00

I never much cared for George Carlin as to me he was a pretty nasty comic - HOWEVER,
a friend just sent me his "advice" on how to stay young, and I think it is positively appropriate and wonderful advice. Therein, I wanted to share it with you.

George Carlin
(Absolutely Brilliant)

HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay "them."

2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, music, art, stock, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it's family, pets, keep sakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

We all need to live life to its fullest each day!!

Don't forget to stay hydrated in the summer heat!

2007-06-10T09:26:00.000-07:00

For a human to stay hydrated, means your body chemistry combines chemically with water molecules. Water molecules are chemically "bound" to another compound or element within your body.

When someone says,"You don't drink enough water", they probably care for you! When you don't drink enough water various things happen.

First, remember that next to oxygen in the importance of life sustaining things we take into our bodies, water comes in second in importance. That is pretty high in the order of things we need to sustain life! We can live for only minutes without oxygen, and only days without water.

Here is a little known fact. When you don't get enough water for your internal organs, they begin to take water from other organs. Amazing, eh? The body knows water is to maintain life. Often we don't realize it.

When you don't get enough fluid in your tissues, your cells start to draw it from your bloodstream. Your blood will thicken (it makes sense - think about it), and it can put a strain on your heart or make you feel weak or light-headed.

Particularly for those of us who perspire profusely, you must replenish your fluids.

I've heard, "But I don't like water. It tastes awful." "I feel like I am drinking nothing and it makes me feel too full." That can be a blessing for those who want to loose a few pounds. Drink water about a half hour before a meal and you won't eat as much. Really!

When I first made the transition from wine to water, (only Jesus can turn water to wine:), I would put my ice water in a lovely crystal wine class with some ice and a twist of lemon. It looked lovely and each time I took a sip I thought "Ummmmmmm -
no calories, no headache, no organs starving for water, and no guilt!

It worked. I got in the habit and I have over the years always taken a bottle or jug of water with me where ever I go in the summer. It is mandatory.

If you need variety, drink caffeine free sports drinks or iced fruit juices (add water to keep calories down). It's fun to be creative. I like sparkling water just flavored with a twist of lemon, lime or orange peel.

Fruits and vegetables can supplement some water intake if you eat five servings a day.

Watermelon, cantaloupe, oranges, apples, and so on. Fruit in the summer is magic. For veggies how about tomatoes or carrots. Be creative.

Lastly, remember ALCOHOL and caffeinated drinks deplete your water supply.

This body will work for you for years and years, and in great health, if you just treat it with as much respect and care as you do an automobile. The requirements are easy, not as costly as auto repair, and will absolutely make you feel better!

You may not think so at first, but give it time and THINK: If I do the right things for my body and mind my spirit will function better too, and my health will improve.
That is simply the physiology of the body!

Now get up and stretch a bit, walk out to the kitchen and get a glass of water (doesn't have to be huge-just frequent). It is the nectar of God and a great healer!
ENJOY> I care!

Take time to go outside and enjoy nature!

2007-06-09T07:41:00.000-07:00

Nature itself is healing. Breathe! Walk, ride a bike, skip, take a drive (and then get out of the car and stretch and walk around a bit!)

Whatever it takes, it's the weekend - it is time to enjoy our still beautiful world.
I went kayaking yesterday, which is a blessing to me, for sure. My face hurt from
smiling all day. Saw lots of birds, ducks, geese, turtles, fish, and children playing on the shores. Families camping, children swimming.

Nature is available to most of us, so take advantage and it will help to heal you in body, spirit, and mind. If you are, for whatever reason, unable to do anything, then please enjoy the Canadian geese family that visited me in my kayak, and roll through past photos and become a part of them by visualizing the sights and imagine the sounds and smells. Take a breath and enjoy your moments!

Have a wonderful weekend and remember a stranger really cares!

Please take 2 minutes to watch this YouTube video

2007-06-07T06:51:00.000-07:00

I normally don't forward things, nor recommend too much, but as a human being, I think this is one of the most touching things I have seen for a long time. I think we need reminders that all those fighting this horrible war are just doing their job - loosing limbs and lives, and they need our love, support and prayers. Thanks for taking the time to watch this.

Tribute video made by 15 year old...VERY GOOD

This is powerful and so well done. Imagine a fifteen year old. This video is the hottest thing on the internet and on Fox News today. Lizzie Palmer who put this YouTube program together is 15 years old. There have been over 3,000,000 hits as of Tuesday 5/8.

In case you missed it, here it is: look to your right above my photo headed
"Watch this please" and click on it!

Have you taken a breath yet today?

2007-06-04T15:56:00.000-07:00

A MINDFUL BREATH! We breathe without thinking about it, and remember, when we are stressed, we almost stop breathing. So if you
haven't thought about taking a breath today - do it now. Slowly inhale in through the nose, and slowly exhale through the mouth. Do it several times, and when you exhale, visualize all the negativity and stress flying right out your fingertips into infinity.

You can only do what you can do! Hope you had a wonderful weekend, and a good day today. Remember, EVERY moment is a new life - begin again, and CREATE a relaxing evening (no matter what) and a good day tomorrow!

OKAY RIGHT NOW DO THIS!

2007-05-31T17:01:00.000-07:00

DO THESE THINGS SLOWLY AND ENJOY! IT'S YOUR BODY AND YOUR LIFE!

Sit back just a bit. Sit up straight, holding your tummy in and pressing your lower back into the chair.

Stretch your arms up in the air as far as you can reach. Clasp your hands and take a breath. Now exhale through the mouth. Put your arms down.

Lay your right ear towards your neck. Stretch it but don't bounce. Take a breath and exhale in the same manner.

Lay your left ear towards your neck. Stretch - no bounce. Take a breath and exhale in the same manner.

Now wiggle your toes and your fingers. Take another breath and exhale.

Say out loud: "I am happy" (put the emphasis on happy). "I am alive. No matter
how challenging things are, I can handle it."

We are training the brain and creating new, positive cells. How cool is that, and a great thing to do for yourself. We are such creatures of habit. GET IN THE HABIT of thinking positive thoughts.

Just think - this has been probably less than a minute, and you have treated your body and mind to a brief period of relaxation. You will benefit from this - I PROMISE!

Remember during the day, or even in the evening - every 30 minutes just do some simple moves and rest your eyes for a few moments. It will keep you sharp, more relaxed, and YOU NEED IT! Remember....I am YOUR personal trainer and I CARE!

Easy techniques to be rid of MANY STRESSES

2007-05-30T07:16:00.000-07:00

.......if you just take the time to do these things. We are all, of course, rushed these days. Too much to do, too little time. These three things are primarily for women to use, men can use them too. Actually my husband does (only two of them.)

1. How easy is it to loose your keys? Have you ever had your purse stolen? (I have!)
Simply buy a clip like the one in the photo and put it on your key ring. You may have to get used to "the look", but I will guarantee you won't loose your keys, or have to struggle looking for them in your purse, if you have one of these little lifesavers.

I hook the keys to my belt loop or to my purse. Easy to find, securely there. Another trick that I love is this. You've heard how purses are stolen at times when you leave yours sitting in your shopping cart. Well it takes one second to hook your purse from your attached key ring, to one of the metal parts of the shopping cart.

Guaranteed, if someone goes to pick up your purse they will get a jolt as it will be attached to the cart. So easy. So effective. Believe me, yesterday in the store I noticed it was a thief's paradise. There were so many purses sitting in the shopping carts with women totally looking the other way. This does relieve stress!

2. Purchase a timer. I don't care if it's from the dollar store or an expensive one. Just get one. I cannot tell you how much this thing has saved both my husband and myself LOTS of stress. For mom's - when your the baby is sleeping and you have food in the oven (for me it's cookies usually:), and you want to sneak a minute or two on the computer - use a timer. It will save the fire alarm from going off when your cookies are burnt!

I use my timer for everything - even what time I have left before I have to leave for an appointment. My husband uses it regularly too! A great way to lighten your stress load.

3. Lastly, (and this one is mostly for women), get a whistle to put on your key ring. I bought my daughter a pepper spray when she lived in L.A. and she proudly displayed it to a police friend of hers. He said, "Get a whistle". It makes sense to me.

If, God forbid, you are attacked, a whistle while you are fending off the attacker would really attract attention. Besides, it is a known fact that if an attacker hears a whistle sometimes they will just leave. Really.

You might think it could never happen to you. WRONG. I had an attempted rape. It
does happen. It could save your life. To be prepared is certainly one way to defend yourself before anything happens!

So there it is. Three little tiny things you can use to remove MANY STRESSES!!! Just take a few moments out of one day to make three small purchases and get in the habit of using them effectively.

Have a wonderful day, and BE SAFE, not paranoid!

Read this and PLEASE, treasure each moment you are alive!

2007-05-28T10:14:00.000-07:00

We often take for granted the simple fact that being alive is truly a gift! We are poised to dwell on the challenges, the tough times, the almost impossible probability of how life can drain us if we allow it to do so!

Yesterday began as any other day. Within hours the phone rang and my neighbor said, "Marsha, I need you." It was only then I realized that the fire department and an ambulance were parked in front of her home.

As I entered the home my neighbor said, "Marsha, the paramedics have been working on mom for 5 minutes. She fell out of bed and was turning blue. I called them right away."

Then she cried as I hugged her. I told her that she had done everything she could do to help. For 15 years I watched this young woman care for her grandpa and her mama. She dedicated her life to doing so.

Never a smoker, she lived in this home, filled with smoke from these two chain smokers. She faithfully cared for them over the years. Her grandpa died from cancer, and her mama.....yesterday, passed on from congestive heart failure.

As I hugged my neighbor, I whispered in her ear. "The quality of your mama's life was diminishing ever so fast. You know she hated being able such a burden to you, being so trapped in a 300 pound body that she needed help just to sit up in bed."

"If she doesn't make it, you must know that her spirit will be with God."

She looked at me and said, "And with grandpa too?"

"Yes," I replied, "and with my mama - who will probably drive her crazy." She smiled through the tears and told me she knew.

The fireman was young. He came out of the bedroom and said, "Maam, we've done
everything we could do. Everything that would have been done in the hospital. I am sorry, but she is gone."

I held my neighbor again as she cried. Then she stood up straight and said to the paramedic, "We know what to do. Grandpa died in October so we'll just wait for the coroner to arrive."

She will be okay. She will survive, and at some point, her life will begin again. There are stages of grief, but she is strong, so I know she will begin to heal soon. She somehow knows that it happened as it should.

I say again, TREASURE EACH MOMENT YOU ARE ALIVE! LIFE IS FLEETING. DON'T FORGET TO LOOK AROUND YOU AND LOVE THE ONES YOU LOVE. SMELL THE FLOWERS, FEEL THE BREEZE AS IT MAKES THE LEAVES IN THE TREES SING. AND IF YOU FEEL YOU ARE ALONE, REMEMBER - YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!

God loves you and so do I - you are, afterall, my human family!

This process, this thing we call life, it goes quickly. Cherish it.

Take a breath - Not a drink...

2007-05-27T10:55:00.000-07:00

...at least not at 10:00 AM. I went to the post office on Friday. As I got into my car a vehicle passed by and the music was very loud. The driver was singing and laughing. At first I thought it was great that someone was actually singing and having fun.

When I backed out and drove by the couple they happened to look at me, so I simply smiled and said, "You two are having way too much fun for so early in the morning."

The guy smiled back and said, "Well, it's five o'clock somewhere, isn't it?" He slurred his words. Get it. He was already drinking and driving. Not good!

It was only a few weeks ago I saw a five car pile up at 1:00PM at an intersection near my home. Someone was drunk as a skunk and plowed into a vehicle stopped for the red light. Like a domino effect - four other cars were immediately involved. SMASH, CRASH. Ambulances on their way, police too. It was terrible.

It was unnecessary. I am NOT SAYING, "Never have a drink". I would be a hypocrite, if I did, as I still have one occasionally. I truly believe alcohol is one of the most insidious drugs on the market, legal and condoned and advertised. Drink and you'll get the sexy women. NOT. Drink and you won't remember who you were with is more like it!

This is a PLEA! PLEASE DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE. Don't die for a drink. Don't start out your day with a drink. I was married to an alcoholic who used to do that. He's dead now.

Value your life and the lives of others and take a breath......it WILL relax you!

THANK YOU PATTI!

2007-05-25T16:28:00.000-07:00

You know who you are! Just in case you didn't read my response, I wanted to thank you
for letting me know you are there and you enjoy what I am doing. I think people should be given appreciation and a thank you for the good things they do. We are always told when we mess up.

I appreciate you taking the time to let me know - I am not alone:) Blessings and true caring from me to you!

BREATHE!

2007-05-25T09:22:00.000-07:00

This is a quick thought, a quote from an uplifting little book I read daily - the
Daily Word.

"If I should let my thoughts remain on concerns, I would experience an increase of emotional stress and physical tension. What I'm thinking affects how I'm feeling. So whenever I realize that stress and tension are interfering with my natural rhythm of breathing, I take a deep breath and relax. Taking the next breath, I focus on Spirit as the presence of life within me and the very breath of life that is continually revitalizing me. Calm and at ease, I breathe in and feel renewed as a rush of energy flows though out my body and peace fills my mind."

You know,it is TRUE! Not just a group of words put together to make us feel better. The physiology of the body works this way. When we think about concerns we actually have a tendency to hold our breaths and give our mind and body less oxygen than we need.

Use the gift of cultivating your oxygen and you will find your life changing for the better. EVEN IF CIRCUMSTANCES DON'T CHANGE - YOU WILL CHANGE! You will think more intelligently, your muscles and ligaments and all the organs of your body will be more relaxed and you will feel better for it!

It seems too easy, almost silly. It is the TRUTH! The best way to get high in the world - BREATHE! It's natural, free, and legal. It is addictive though....the one
addiction you can really profit from using!

PLEASE have a wonderful and safe holiday and remember the reason behind it. It is to honor those in the military, men and women, who have died in service for their country and our freedom. Honor the days by staying sane and sober and not getting behind the wheel if you drink.

Moderation is a wonderful word! Have fun!

WALK, WALK, WALK!

2007-05-23T16:46:00.000-07:00

In many places the age of someone considered to be a senior citizen is 55. That seems awfully young to me! Nonetheless.......so be it.

Mama used to say, "Be nice to the elderly, for it is you in the future." Makes sense to me. Time scoots by quickly, and if we are lucky, and work at it a bit, we can live to be a senior citizen and a healthy one at that.
This morning I went for a brisk walk. At the end of the walk I saw three cheerywomen setting up a table. There were sheets of information being placed on the table, and all sorts of things. I was just too curious to pass by without asking: "What is all this?"

Come to find out, they were there to celebrate a fitness walk for seniors. They were loaded with information, other "goodies" and a calendar of events for seniors that included classes to stay fit and limber. Many of the classes were free, and some just a minimal cost.

These women were obviously motivated and absolutely charming. I asked if they might pose for a photo so I could share it with you. WHAT A GREAT THING TO DO....help people stay fit and healthy. As I've said before, you know you only have one body to live in - cherish it!

I was without a pen or pencil and the name of the group they represented flew away the moment I got into traffic. I called the park all day to get a name, but the gentleman who could tell me never came back into the office.

So "ladies of the walk". I apologize. I don't know your names either, but won't forget your great smiles and dedicated motivation.

I do want to honor what you are doing and suggest to everyone in the blog world (no matter what age) remember to MOVE. Walk, skip, jump, glide, hop, side step, do retro-walks, just MOVE. Your body will work so much better for you when you take care of it.

When you walk, breathe! Enjoy these moments of your life and the beautiful summer by getting outside and taking care of yourself! Do it! :)

Quick thoughts that are important!

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Stress hormones,like cortisol,can put a damper on your metabolism. When you become "stressed out" about something, these hormones are activated. When your day is hectic, close your eyes and take five deep breaths. Exhale through the mouth. You will lower your heart rate and keep that metabolism "rockin' and rollin'"(particularly important for those of you who are trying to lower your weight.)

Think yourself stronger. "Researchers at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation found that people who imagined contracting their biceps for 15 minutes, five days a week for 3 months increased their arm strength by more than 13 percent."

I am not surprised. MIND OVER MATTER and BRAIN MAGIC - we all have power available from within us. Power that truly does work! It is all about three things: 1. believe it. 2. bring it to the surface. 3. Practice, practice, practice.

Think and improve your lives: "I know better than to waste time and energy worrying about my future. I only can truly live in the present. I pause and gently wave all worry thoughts away from me - no negative concern, large or small can interfere with my peace of mind."

As you exercise these thoughts your power to make good choices and think in a positive manner will increase daily.

No one out there wants to guess!

2007-05-21T20:00:00.000-07:00

Heck, maybe no one is reading all my stress management information on this blog.
Maybe no one is reading this blog!

I hope someone out there is, and can use some of the information - I love to share! But if no one is reading, I am STILL enjoying writing and playing,and sending out love and positive thoughts anyway.

The photo is actually a bud. A flower about to blossom. A beautiful creation on this earth.

Tomorrow is another day, and another chance to breathe and enjoy each moment. Sleep well.

Guess and Win!

2007-05-17T11:14:00.000-07:00

I am going to be out of town until Monday, but the first person who guesses what the
heck the latest picture I posted is, gets a NEW relaxation CD FREE!

MAKE SURE you have a great weekend. Do some mindful breathing, stretch a bit, and
even walk or do some activity. You body, mind and spirit will all thank you by working better and feeling better!

You deserve it!

Yahoo!

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This blogging, and the whole internet "process", is a great learning experience! It's like learning a new language, new ways to develop and fix photos, and a wonderful way to share and learn from others.

I LOVE IT! I have also made some genuine friends during the process, and hope to actually, physically, meet them some day.

Today I have just posted the first website I have ever made on my own. It still has a ways to go, and I am sure I will be updating and changing it over the coming months,
but I feel wonderful that it's actually posted!

If you are interested in taking a peek, check out: http://www.stressmanagementmagic.com.

Happy Mother's Day to ALL Mothers

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Before I begin a post dedicated to my mama, who has been gone now over nine years,
if you have lost a child, or know of someone who has, please send them to read the post for them at http://marshaobrien.wordpress.com

To Mama, with love.

I love you. I always will. You were an exceptional mama to me, and one to many other children in your world. I honor you by remembering a few of the things you did to change my life forever. Your spirit of love lives brightly in my heart.

You taught me about God and Jesus, a gift I have treasured throughout my life. You taught me about unconditional love, and gave it freely to me every day you were with me.

You loved my children and proved it time and time again.

You taught me how to step into another man's moccasins, and how to truly forgive. You stepped in my shoes and by doing so helped me get out of a deep hole I was digging for myself.

You rescued me, more than once, from abuse inflicted by others and by myself.

You never judged me, or anyone. You helped even strangers. You were a protector of the underdog and encouraged me to stay firm in what I believed.

You gave me a spirit of adventure and I always knew I could count on you.

You told me there were two things I could always count on. God and love. You were right. Both truly never fail.

You took me in when I was struggling, listened when I went on a rampage, counseled me when I'd been hurt. Though sometimes I pretended not to listen, I always did.

You were an example of how to live with terrible pain gracefully. You taught me about aging, and were an example of how to rise about the loss of a loved one.

You built me up no matter how life tried to tear me down. You made me know the joy of giving. You gave of yourself and your bounty, with no expectation of a return.

You taught me to be tough and bounce back. You taught me how to stay healthy and strong through nutrition and movement. You were ahead of your time.

When I was in need of anything, or deep in despair, you would appear, like an angel.
Positive, packed with problem solving ideas, you would do do anything to help, and always offering hugs and a hand to hold.

You reminded me to laugh and never let a challenge in life overcome me.

.....and towards the end, you said: "I can bear the pain, and it will be worthwhile if we can share what we've learned about osteoporosis with other woman, to deter and perhaps diminish their pain." You were selfless.

Your consistent love and dedication as a mother has sustained me through out my life,even after your passing.

I remember your words written in the diary I asked you to keep for the family.

"The only things that count in life are the imprints of love which we leave behind us after we are gone."

My little mama....... Marjorie Grace Phillips Walker (1916 - 1998)

This weekend

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GO OUTSIDE AND MOVE YOUR BODY! Enjoy the springtime and do something that works your body, refreshes your mind and senses, and helps you to remember there is more to life than the internet! I love the internet, but I only have one body to live in! Take care YOURS and enjoy good health and the freedom of movement as long as possible!

How to correct a mistake

2007-05-09T06:56:00.000-07:00

Fess up to it! I am still in the midst of “pressing things” but someone brought to my attention that I made an error in the spelling of a word. YES I did. For my entire life I have spelled GREAT, as it should be!

Somehow I have, over the last few months switched the spelling to GRATE. Wrong:). As my darling sister pointed out to me, “you grate carrots”. Right on!

I know it’s not life altering. I know I am not guilty of killing THAT MANY brain cells. It may just be one of life’s mysteries forever. Anyway, what this silly little post is about is to correct my error. I want to let you know, I know, GREAT is the spelling I intended in several posts. Since I don’t have the time, currently, to go back and read and correct the posts, I just wanted to say, “WHOOPS!” and tell you to have a GREAT day!

I copied this from my other blog as I still am "away" for a few days...just wanted to let YOU know I made my first mistake (hahahahahah).

Keep me in mind

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I won't be posting for a few days, but will be back soon! In the meantime, take a breath now and then..a mindful one. You know, in through the nose, and out through the mouth. Nice and slow and deep. You will slow your heart rate and can even lower your blood pressure some!

When you sit for long periods don't forget to sit back, stretch, wiggle your toes, stretch out your fingers, and take another breath! This is YOUR LIFE, YOUR BODY, and for all the hard work you do, if you don't take care of yourself - your body, mind and spirit, all will SUFFER.

Besides, realistically, in order to do your best work this awesome oxygen machine needs to be taken care of at least as good as you would do for your car. Please remember to love YOU, and you will find you have more energy, better health, and optimum intellect to solve all the tasks that face you!

Now take a breath and remember someone who doesn't know you TRULY CARES!

For a better weekend, think about this

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The past is OVER. The future is UNKNOWN. Enjoy the present. The only moments you have. Marvel in the NOW!

Mama used to say, "I know what that look is on your face. It's the look that tells me you are loving me. You don't have to say a thing."

So look at those you love and speak with your eyes....and then your actions. Hug somebody!

CREATE a spectacular weekend!

Keep this in mind

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For every pound you gain, your body creates about an extra mile of blood vessels.
Blood must travel that much farther, which strains the heart and ups your risk of high blood pressure.

When you start to go for that third cookie, think of your poor heart and say, "No thanks." Your heart will appreciate it and your health will reflect it sooner than you think!

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF - You know :), as I've said before, "You only have one place to live, and that's YOUR BODY!

Smile. Somebody really cares!

A Promise

2007-05-01T16:36:00.000-07:00

The main reason I began this blog is because I made a promise many years ago to get health of "body, spirit and mind" to as many people as I can, for as long as I can!

I have tried to share over the years, classes with some folks who just didn't have the money, by trading for their services or something they wanted to trade in exchange. Bartering. It was actually fun too.

One time I had a class wherein if someone brought a heart - the classes were free for the week. I got so many wonderful hearts. Cookies, an apron, drawings, sachets, a bracelet, a headband with hearts, and so on. It was wonderful and we had a grate time. What I got in return was an unbelievable feeling in my own heart!

I have enjoyed excellent health because of the training I consistently do, and the stress management techniques. I believe EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT to learn how to get healthy and manage the stress we all encounter on a daily basis. Not everyone has the money to take classes, but I will say it again, EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT to find out how to change their lives, and the lives of those around them.

One time I mustered up the courage to do a cable television program. I did twelve one hour shows. The first six were different types of instruction. The last six I had guest instructors show their styles of "fitness training."

The last six shows I hadn't rehearsed with the guest instructors - on purpose. I wanted to show that even if you can't do all the class or all the moves - it's okay, do what you can do! I was the perfect example of not doing all the right moves:).

I even got my 78 year old little mama to come on and we did a show helping seniors to learn they can do lots of things, and more than they might realize. It was fun and from the response I got, it helped some people. They replayed the videos for 5 years because of requests. I didn't get paid for those shows (well, not money). I wanted to reach and teach as many people as I could.

My PRIMARY GOAL in writing this blog, as I mentioned before, is to share what has been given to me, and without cost to you. I will even answer specific questions if I can help you, if you just ask!

Of course that doesn't mean I still don't need to make some money. I've put thousands of hours in schooling, specialized classes, and training over many years to do what I believe in. I've seen miracles. The moment someone makes the first step towards changing their life, the miracle begins to happen.

So here is the deal: Once every couple of months I will mention the fact that I do have relaxation CD's for sale. Also a book to help those who care for an elderly person or parent.

So far, the response has been incredible. From both the book and CD I have gotten comments and letters that warm my heart and my spirit.

PLEASE - if you know of someone that needs help in this area check out my website. Both the book and CD are listed there.

For a one time payment, you can help YOURSELF or someone else! A gift to someone you love - or a gift to love yourself!

Now here's the other promise to you. I promise I won't fill this blog with various advertisements and clutter it up. I promise I will keep it positive and clear in purpose, and try to share as much important information for you that I can. I will keep current and up to date and share all that I know to help you change your life and the lives of those around you for the better!

I promise. Now move your eyes just to the right and go look at my website:)

A reminder for all of us

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I know sometimes a problem seems to take on a life of it’s own whispering into our ears. If something is worrisome, shrink the problem to nothingness by commanding your mind to focus on the good in your life and not a perception of desperation. We waste so much time and energy on useless worry and fear. Time is fleeting if you haven't noticed.:) 99% of all we worry about never comes to being. Let it go.

There is unlimited abundant energy and you direct whether it be positive or negative. Refuse to be negative and re-affirm “I am getting better.” No matter how you feel at the time, whether you believe it or not, your positive affirmation makes the the statement true.

As you speak the words the body responds with positive energy growing and healing. You will create brain cell impressions that re-enforce your words. Be grateful for a possible joy that may not be known yet to you. Renew your mind, your heart and every fiber of your body.

We become “compelled” and then “consumed”. Compel yourself to seek peace and healing; be consumed by those things. Only allow yourself to be compelled and consumed by thoughts that will aid your peace and healing process.

CLEAR: "Free from anything that dims or darkens; bright; unclouded.
Without impurity or blemish. Free from obstructions or hindrances.
Able to discern; quick and orderly; free from uncertainty; free from guilt;
without roughness, serene. To remove; to disentangle; to become free."

Be Clear!

Believe it or not, I used to flip people off and say "p--s on you" when I got upset.
It upset me further. These days I add another finger making the peace sign and simply say "peace on you."

It's been grate. Nasty people will be nasty no matter what. I won't change for them. I just bless them and think "they must not be happy". I ALWAYS feel better in the long run!

Don’t give away your power. Help others but refuse to be stripped of your energy and your joy. Share, don’t give it away.

You have JUST these moments!

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Use them wisely. Take a breath. Stretch. Think of whatever blessings you have....just waking up in the morning to have another chance at life is a grate
blessing to me. Choose your path wisely, and your words, and CREATE a wonderful day
for yourself!

More on walking......

2007-04-24T19:13:00.000-07:00

I wasn't kidding about walking and the benefits you can get from even just a short walk. Some of the perks I didn't speak about are such things as seeing new bright green leaves on the trees, a vast array of colors and flowers bursting on the scene, spring fragrances permeating the air, and so much more.

If you are close to water you may see Canadian geese strutting around or gliding in the water. The males loudly protesting your presence, while the females tend to the little ones. The sound of the birds singing to us and each other is so varied and lovely, and the variety of birds flying from tree to tree is unbelievable.

All these things will add to your bundle of "stress management and relaxation techniques." What wonderful ways to distract yourself from problems for a few moments.Take the dog for a walk. Find a bench and sit for a while. Pet the dog and you will enjoy the sights and sounds, and relax from just his companionship. It's been proven petting an animal is a stress management technique!

If you are not so fortunate as to have these things available for you to enjoy, I
hope you will read and then close your eyes and visualize them. Take in a breath
and imagine the sounds and smells of spring in my corner of the world.

I practice what I preach, so yesterday I took a walk in a nearby area designated for just that. There are several different walks. I chose one that was only one and three quarters mile, but it was perfect for the day and the time I could allot.

I saw so many of the things I spoke of above, and more.....wildflowers cascading down hillsides and tall grass blowing like velvet in the breeze. I was grateful for the time to slow down a bit (and knew I was helping the body I live in too!).

I think the most precious thing I saw yesterday is reflected in the photo I posted with this writing. I heard voices and came up behind a small child and a gray haired gentleman with suspenders. I couldn't resist taking the photo. After all, it is beautiful sight to see the joining of hands between two humans.

I moved in front of them and introduced myself and asked who the young gentleman was.
He was, indeed, the grandson. "I'm almost four" he said. Grandpa was closer to somewhere in his sixties.

The child had sunglasses on and was very enthusiastic about the walk. The grandpa was taking smaller steps, and his time. It was a lovely sight and made my heart feel great. Take advantage of the time with your young ones, they grow up faster than you think!

As I moved a head I heard in the background, "Grandpa, can I ride on your shoulders?"
I smiled and thought how glad I was I had chosen to walk today!

MAKE the time to take a walk, help your body and mind, and see what you discover along the way!

IF YOU ARE LONELY, DEPRESSED, OR IN PAIN.....

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.......and you can - WALK! Do it! Here's the deal. You don't have to be a marathon walker. You don't have do anything special. Just walk and swing your arms a bit with some "mustered up" enthusiasm.

This is why. This is how your body works whether you know it or not, whether you like it or not. It is just the physiology (the way in which a living organism, or body parts function)of the body we live in.

When you walk you pump up the oxygen in this oxygen machine. This is good. When we are lonely, depressed, or in pain, somehow we seem to use our oxygen less. We may slump over, or cringe in pain, whatever the reason - it has been proven we breathe less!

As we walk we take in more oxygen and our entire body becomes better immediately.
We are receiving oxygen to think optimally, more oxygen to go to injured areas to help the healing, to let the organs, muscles, ligaments, tendons, etc. get the oxygen they so need.

Also, and here is a GIANT plus: When we walk we create endorphins (they are peptides that activate the body's opiate receptors), and they help with pain! It is a pharmacy from within you creating opium and morphine like pain medication for you.

Have you ever heard of a "runner's high"? You don't have to run to have that happen.
It's those feel good feeling we all so desire. All you have to do is walk. The body
creates the positive endorphins that actually make you happier!

Even if you think this is hogwash - I promise, it isn't. Give it a try. Also try to use your intellect by NOT crowding out the true goodness to come with negative thoughts.

"Oh, this won't work", and so forth. It will work. Use that intellect and help the process along by thinking "I am doing the right thing for my body and this will work." You will also create positive brain cells! YES YOU WILL!

I want you not to be lonely, depressed, or in pain. Use the brain and body magic by walking and be consistent. You consistently shop/work/clean/etc. Consistently walk each day - even 10 minutes will help!

This is the only body you have to live in, so give it the care you would give to others -or even your car! Magic WILL HAPPEN!

Have a wonderful day and now GET UP AND GO TAKE A SHORT WALK. Even if it's just around the house....I've done that many times and then returned to my desk feeling better and knowing I've done something important for me!

YOU ARE WORTH IT. Besides, if you don't take care of you, NO ONE WILL!

Earth Day

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Every day should be an earth day. We have only one body to live in (that's why I teach health and fitness, and preventative things to do to stay healthy!) - body, mind and spirit.

We also only have one planet to reside upon - our beloved earth. It is still, with all our destruction and trashing of it, a wonderful place to live. We can still save our planet if we just are mindful of our own actions.

If I "allowed" myself to stress about things I would say I tire of the shows and articles suggesting what WE can do to help. Certainly we can do much. It would be helpful if the manufacturers of plastic grocery sacks, plastic containers, autos, wood structures, etc. would slow down the number of these things put on the market.

Alas, the almighty dollar calls. If only a majority would help. There are some who do, and for that I am ever grateful.

What we can do is honor the place we live by NOT trashing it. We went for a walk last evening and right along side the gutter was a dirty diaper. We saw two empty pop cans on the sidewalk. A number of other things lay on the lawns, sidewalks and street.

How difficult is it to carry your trash to your car, your home, or to find a container! It's small things like that that add up. We are riding our bikes more,
and trying to drive less. We are unplugging things at night, and using our recycle bin.

Please just remember we have no where else to live.....our own body, and our planet.
Just a baby step for each of us will help. Don't forget for those of us that live
in America, we are blessed with abundance - we need to give back for all we have.

Let's do as a recent movie suggested and "pay it forward" by caring for our own home - planet earth.

Mirror, Mirror, on the wall....

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I used to think mirrors were thought of by some evil force to torture us
as we age. Have you ever gotten up in the morning and had an abrupt experience
as you passed a mirror? Have you ever felt terrific and walked by a mirror only to
notice you have a huge blemish? Or that you look 20 years older than you feel?
I surely have, at least on one occasion!

Recently I read an article by Ardath Rodale, author of such books as Reflections and Gifts of the Spirit, andis Chairman of the Board of Rodale Inc. She gave me new insight on mirrors and because it is valuable, I would like to share it with you.

Often when I’ve looked into a mirror I not liked, nor appreciated what I’ve
seen. Sometimes I’ve even cringed and made faces at myself to show my own private disapproval.

Ardath reminded me we take our mirrors for granted. We often glance at our reflection, or critique it, be do we ever really see “ourselves"?

I think this was a great eye opener for me. Now when I look in the mirror I am “in training”. I am creating new brain cell impressions that appreciate seeing the human body that still works wonders for me.

I look in the mirror in the morning and smile at myself, knowing that smiling feels better, and creates less wrinkles than frowning!

I talk to myself. “Oh I am glad you still have another day to do the best that you can.” “I am glad to be me as I’ve had so many good experiences and there are more to come.”

“Look you, don’t be so critical of yourself. Pick out your good points and ponder on them - like you would do for others.”

It has totally changed my prospective on mirrors. I don’t worry so much about my looks as realize that the look on my face can change my heart and own feelings - and those of others. A smile is worth a million dollars - even if it’s YOU smiling back at you!

Try it. You’ll learn to love it!

Two minutes to refresh and regenerate yourself

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Whatever you are doing - stop now - just for a minute or two. Sit up straight. Hold your tummy in and push your low back into the chair. Pull your head out from your shoulders and think of separating the bones in the neck and spine.

Now inhale through the nose. Make it a slow and deep inhalation. Now exhale through the mouth in the same manner.

As you are mindful of your breathing, stretch your hands in front of you, clasping them together as if you are pushing something away, and stretch your arms forward. Now push them upward and stretch towards the ceiling.

Put your arms down. Relax and take a breath. Exhale. Push yourself away from the desk just a bit and press your toes forward. Now press your heels away from you. This move
will activate your blood flow to move upward. Point the toes - now press the hells and take a breath. Exhale.

Roll each ankle in a few circles. Now change direction and roll them again.

Stretch your fingers out. Make them into a tight fist. Do it again.
Now roll the wrists and reverse the circles like you did the ankles. Shake the hands.

Stand. Get a drink of water. Congratulate yourself. Your body and mind will appreciate this mini work out, and you will continue with your work refreshed and ready to go!

I am sorry but....

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the media sucks. The one thing I love about the internet is people talking to people. Yes, there is BS everywhere, but I believe lots of real information is passed along.

I must say: When it's over, it's over! Acceptance. The media likes to turn every move into a story. They like to sensationalize
every aspect of horror. Excuse me.

For me, the most advantageous technique for living life, has been learning acceptance.
We haven't control over the majority of what actually happens in our lives. That is simply the way it is. We like to think we are controlling our lives, but that just isn't realistic. Anything
can happen from one moment to the next!

STOP! We must stop it, if they won't. Agreed?

We are curious. We want to know what has happenened; why this human
went crazy and caused such horror. But READING, WATCHING, LISTENING to the same story repeated over and over (excuse me) CRAP - does not resolve anything.

1. Acceptance: we must accept this has happened. It is a shock. It is horrible. Watching the same images, listening to the same "few" that report it - NOT PRODUCTIVE.

As an example: I am a mother in Tacoma, Washington. I become so engrossed with this incident that I feel it is over - "I
can never send my child to school without fear." WRONG. NARROW. Not accepting that in this life, we have only limited control over what happens!

WHEN MY CHILDREN LEFT HOME - I was devastated. (They didn't know it). I was fearful they were in the wrong place, in the wrong group of people, YOU KNOW. I had to trust that they had the "stuff" inside to survive. Mama told me, "At this point honey, you have to trust God, and trust your children." I did. I could do nothing else.

WE HAVE TO ACCEPT what IS. Otherwise we are living a life of delusion. It is what is it!

Sad, terrible, useless, pointless, horrible - agreed. But NOW we have to move forward. It is the ONLY CHOICE.

When Horror and tragedy must be faced

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There is nothing I can think of worse than the loss of a child. The loss of these children today at Virginia Tech is a tragedy that none of us ever expected. It is ALWAYS tragic to loose a child, but when it is by such useless violence, it becomes almost impossible to comprehend.

There is no recovery from this type of stress immediately. The grieving parents, friends and families will be in shock for days to come, and probably sleepless for weeks. Grieving takes time.

There are 5 stages of grief and everyone must, it seems, go through at least some of them. The stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. I will not expound on them, but there are many websites to check out if your are interested. I found one that is very good: http://davidkessler.org/html/qa_grief.html#6. It explains, step by step, what to expect in times of grief.

What I would like to share is not for those grieving, as probably not a single one of those persons will get anywhere near a computer to "learn" techniques at this point. I want to share some thoughts for those of you who may be able to help those in grief - friends, co-workers, neighbors, church members, acquaintances, just anyone at large in the community that might want to be able to touch and help the heart of one who is suffering now.

It has been my experience that even strangers from a far can help by praying for those involved, and those who's spirits have been elevated from this earth. Pray for the God you believe in, whatever the name may be, to help these who remain and are suffering. Prayer changes things, though, alas, it cannot mend what has been torn here and now.

Let people know that you would be willing to step in to cook a meal or two, or cook for the gathering of family that will occur. Try to relieve some task that may need doing, but will be neglected for now. Ask if you can babysit the small children for the family, ask what you can do to help. Don't be shy.

You may find someone breaking into tears and desperately needing just a hug. We all live in this world. We are a family of humans and tragedy has happened again. Beef up your courage
and make a step towards giving love, your energy, whatever may be needed at this time.

Take a breath, say a prayer, hold someone's hand. Love one another and help the healing to begin with your love.

Animal Rescue and knowledge gained!

2007-04-13T16:53:00.000-07:00

I went to an animal rescue group to see some of the wild animals rescued. There were many, and folks volunteered to care for them until they could return to the wild - or some, unable to return, were adopted.

I always thought I hated scavenger birds - vultures. I thought they were awful. It was a stress I held within when I saw them. "Horrible birds", I thought.

This gathering changed my mind. I was harboring feels of unrest about the birds every time I saw them, UNTIL I actually learned about them!

The vulture in the photo was rescued 5 years ago and the couple in the photo adopted him then. He actually is friendly, affectionate, and has been a wonderful pet for the couple. I learned that the holes in his nose are to smell for food. They are the only bird that has that sense-the sense of smell. They smell the dead, and that is their only food. They aren't hunters and would die without that sense. They also eat diseased carcasses.

After spending time talking with the couple, and actually seeing the bird close up, I realized that it was only because I didn't know WHY the bird ate the dead that I was pent up about the emotion I felt about them. That stressor is gone and I now have appreciation for the birds.

Communication is the key to Peace!

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These are things I’ve learned over the years about communicating with other “human kind”. Since we are all able to use verbal communication, it is important we follow some basic rules that are usually learned through the trial and error method. Hopefully these thoughts will be of value in your life (whether communicating with male or female, some principles are unisex and invaluable, in maintaining healthy relationships. Poor communication skills can raise your stress level dangerously high.

1. Honesty is premium. Without honest communication we are doomed to disaster. Many times you’ll hear people say, “Oh, I didn’t want to hurt her feelings”, or “he just couldn’t handle the truth”. Truth is far less damaging than lies. Sometimes the “delivery” might need to be handled delicately, with a positive tone, but in the long run - truth will always win out as the optimum choice as surely as the sun rises each morning.

2. Never assume, when a comment is initially made, that you actually know what the person meant. Sometimes it will be obvious, but consider the fact that painful communication and relationship scars in all of us will often color or alter the meaning of what a person may say - to you! If you feel uncomfortable or need clarification, simply ask. “I may be “I may be misunderstanding what you are saying, could you clarify for me?” Think of how many times an argument has occurred because of such misunderstandings. Never assume!

3. Listen until the other person has completed a thought. Don’t immediately start thinking about your response. You cannot hear what
the person is saying if you don’t give your full attention. This rule applies any time. It is the intelligent person that listens. It is the person who truly cares and wants to have understanding that listens.

4. If you have a complaint, state what you observed or feel. State it objectively; don’t generalize and don’t exaggerate. Use your intellect as opposed to your emotion, and be concise about the comment of complaint.

5. If the matter has been satisfactorily resolved, do not keep bringing it up. In my experience, men are able to forget a situation quickly, and women seem to dwell on it, review it, and suffer from it for a very long time. When a matter is done, drop it. That is then, this is now. We live in the “nows” and not the” thens”.

6. Listen for the thought that is actually being expressed, and often more importantly, for the feeling that is being expressed. Be in tune and sensitive to others feelings, and not strictly their words. Women have a tendency to hear ALL words that are spoken, and ingest them over and over again. Men are more flagrant with their words, not oftentimes realizing that words can cut like a sharp knife. Those wounds (particularly-but not singularly, as men can be hurt too) often take years to heal.

7. Acknowledge that the other person (the speaker) has a right to his or her feelings simply because the feelings exist - no matter what the reasoning behind them. Nothing constructive will ever be accomplished unless the listener can accept the other person’s feeling as VALID for the other person.

8. Restate the content of what the other person has expressed. Do not state it in an accusing or negative manner, but simply emphatic about understanding.

9. State “feelings” in regard to what you observed that made you feel a complaint was necessary. Be sure not to confuse feelings with opinions .
Feelings can be motivated by emotion and not intellect. Stand back and objectively review these things.

10. Take responsibility for your feelings. Don’t say, “you made me angry”.
Say, “I got angry” or I am angry.” If you FEEL something - take the responsibility and don’t lay blame on someone else.

11. Before you speak or respond, take a breath (your brain needs 50% more oxygen to serve you optimally). You will also give yourself a moment to calm down, and the oxygen to help you do so. Empower yourself by breathing. When we are excited we often hold our breath. We cut off our own oxygen supply, inhibiting our calm and intellectual reaction to a situation. Do not let your emotions be in charge. We have been given brains to think. Use your intellect and discuss all points of the conversation or conflict.

12. Reminder: Keep it brief, kind and honest. Verbal communication is the way we project love, hate, joy, sadness, and so other emotions. Without it we can't RELATE to one another.

I truly believe my husband and I have kept our marriage as lovers and best friends for 19 years because we have ALWAYS kept the communication open between us, and never belittled what the other is thinking. We discuss things (we don't ALWAYS agree) - but we are honest and don't hold it inside to ultimately implode.

Remember that a lack of good communication can cause breakups, divorces, and wars!
Take a breath, think before you speak and listen with sincerity.

Easter

2007-04-06T17:15:00.000-07:00

I KNOW everyone doesn't celebrate Easter in the same way I do. I am Christian. Not a normal one, granted! I pray, read the Bible, and believe the conclusions I've come to about it all, what I consider my "own personal property."

I also respect the right of others to choose what they opt to believe. Let me be clear: Each man must choose! I respect and honor that premise.

I just want to share that, in writing this post, I am sharing what I believe with you as a gesture of public appreciation to God and His Son.
I hope that for those with similar beliefs, you will enjoy and love your Easter activities.

For those of you who do not agree with my celebration of the resurrection, I hope you steer clear of worshiping the money god and buying WAY TOO MUCH CANDY for your kiddos!
Sugar is awful for kids and the corporations LOVE the money all the easter bunny brings in to them. (Probably not the workers, but the CEO's for sure, eh?)

What ever you do, have a lovely day with those around you. If you are alone (and I think none of us are EVER truly alone) - revel in the still beautiful world around us. Enjoy the animals, the greenery and flowers of springtime, the very many things we usually don't have time to enjoy!

Take time, take a breath , relax and regenerate! And.....from me to you: blessings to you, and love from one fellow human being to another!

A wonderful event

2007-04-04T07:41:00.000-07:00

My husband had for months been quite negative about some important things. He had valid reasons to have concerns and 99% of the men I've known in my lifetime would have been right there with him - grumbling, unhappy, and negative as hell!

But here is where my man differs from so many men. He decided to use his intellect and do something about it. He said, "I'm going to change my attitude about things. I can't do anything
about these things right now anyway, and I can't keep going down this path as it's damaging my position at work and my relationships there too. From now on, "It's all good."

He may have been kind of tricking his own brain when he started, but he'd made a choice that
since nothing could be done to change these things right now - he wasn't going to let himself turn into a grumpy, miserable kind of guy! GOOD FOR HIM!

Last night, after several weeks of training himself to get in the habit of thinking and saying,
"It's all good", he was relaxing in his recliner and he turned to get my attention.

"You know," he began, "since I've been saying that it's all good - things have gotten much better. I feel better, it's better at work, and it's all good!"

So there it is. Use your intellect, change your thinking and the words that exit your mouth, and change your life! It's all good! CREATE a wonderful day for yourself and those around you!

Think about it

2007-04-03T15:31:00.000-07:00

If you THINK you are miserable - you will be miserable.
If you THINK you are negative - you will be negative.
and so forth and so on.

"......as we thinketh, so shall we become"

People ask me why I am so happy and feel so good all the time. I KNOW a huge part of the the reason is because I have trained myself to THINK in those terms.

My response is usually: "I tried being miserable. It sucked, so I gave it up."

Try it. You'll like it! :)

When bad things are happening all around you

2007-03-27T09:11:00.000-07:00

When everything around you seems to be falling a part, when the circumstances you NEVER believed would happen to you, are now your life, the number one thing you need to find is ACCEPTANCE.

Accept the fact that no matter how you think you have a handle on things, no matter how much you try to control the activities of your life, events will occur that you never dreamed would happen. Bad things may be happening all around you.

Accept the fact that you still have two choices. You can succumb to the circumstances and let your response be controlled by outside factors, or you can use your brain and respond in a positive manner which reflects intellect and thought.

Stop for a moment. Exercise your mind. Sometimes you cannot change circumstances in your life. You can, however, always be in charge of your response to those circumstances.

Use your oxygen. It is with you and sustains you 100% of the time. Remember, mindful breaths will lower your blood pressure, slow your heart rate, get needed oxygen to the brain, and keep those ligaments, tendons, muscles, and all the organs inside you functioning optimally.

The list below are life events that trigger STRESS. Some are good events, and some are bad things that happen that catch you off guard. They are ranked from the most stressful to the least stressful:

Death of a spouse or child (or grandchild)
Divorce
Marital Separation
Detention in jail or other institution
Death of a close family member (parent or sibling)
Major personal injury or illness
Marriage
Being fired from work
Marriage reconciliation
Retirement
Major change in health or behavior of a family member
Pregnancy of spouse / partner
Sexual difficulties
Gaining a new family member(birth, adoption)
Major business readjustment (merger, reorganization)
Major change in financial state (better or worse)
Death of a close friend
Changing to different type of work
Major change in the number of arguments with spouse (more or less)
Taking on a significant (to you) mortgage
Foreclosure on a mortgage or loan
Bankruptcy
Son or daughter leaving home
In-law troubles
Outstanding personal achievement
Partner beginning or ceasing work outside the home
Beginning or ceasing formal schooling
Major change in living conditions
Revision of personal habits
Troubles with the boss
Change in residence
Changing to a new school
Major change in usual type and / or amount of recreation
Major change in church or spiritual activities
Taking on a small loan
Major change in sleeping habits
Major change in number of family get-togethers (more or less)
Major changes in eating habits
Holiday or vacation
Christmas
Minor violations of the law

I've had every single thing on the list happen to me in my lifetime (with two exceptions - and I'm not telling which ones:) I'm still here, and still the human happy face!

Stress can be good or bad. It still affects our mind and spirit. Too much stress can (and usually does) change the health and functions of our body.

When bad things are happening all around you, when you think you can't handle any more, remember.....

YOU CAN TOO! Often we are hit with so much at one time we may think we just can't handle it. The real secret is, YOU CAN HANDLE IT!

The ONLY choice is to accept, take a breath, use your intellect, and respond accordingly. We may not be able to change the scenario, but we can change our attitude about it. Find a lesson. Empower yourself in some way by building character. Have compassion and understanding.

Now take a breath and relax! It will all be okay.

The things you think and the way you breathe

2007-03-26T18:24:00.000-07:00

The things that you think,and the quality of your oxygen will ultimately become your life and health. YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF WHERE YOU GO FROM HERE.

Breath and think positively. Teach your brain to create those “cell impressions” from which you can empower yourself simply through your thoughts. Ultimately, if you are consistent, your body physiology will be changed for the good.

Put aside any doubt and release any tendency to “make things work out” or to force an outcome. Open your thoughts and your life to the source of all intelligence and let go of worry.

Worry changes nothing for the better. The only thing worry does is increase in increments and cause more worry, more problems, and affect us physically in a negative manner. HONEST!

Spend time on thoughts that are positive and quality and you will draw those things
to you. Be mindful of your oxygen intake, and as you exhale send all those negative thoughts into oblivion.

What is past, is past. The future is but a "hope for the best". The moments you have
are now. Make them of value to you and those around you.

......and remember: somebody in the world who doesn't even know you - really cares!

When you can't handle any more, remember.....

2007-03-21T17:38:00.000-07:00

YOU CAN TOO! Often we are hit with so much at one time we may think we just can't handle it.

The secret is, WE CAN!

I will reiterate as I have before many times: STOP. Take a breath. Slow down for 30 seconds and pull yourself together. We have been given a great natural instinct from within to help us find an answer, or at least some peace about the unbelievable circumstances that surround our being. Change the subject. Divert your own attention to something else momentarily. Take a breath!

Mama told me, "Just think honey. What is the worst that can happen? If you can fathom handling that, you can handle anything. If you think you can't, then think again! Life is tough."

"Stop listening to all the negative things that include the words: I can't, I won't, I won't be able to, I give up, I quit, etc. Never give up. Just when you think you can't handle everything - everything will change. Give it a bit of time. 90% of what we waste our lives worrying about never comes to fruition. So STOP wasting your life on "worry and doubt". It doesn't do anything except hurt you and all those around you."

Keep in mind my mama had osteoarthritis, osteoporosis and "other disabilities". She could twist her waist and break a bone. She lost 7 1/2 inches in height and was in critical pain most of the time. She proved you can "handle anything that crosses your path. Never give up or give in!"

Pretty sound advice, I think. Now take a breath and relax! It will all be okay.

Anger to Liberation

2007-03-15T20:24:00.000-07:00

When you learn to deal with anger skillfully it can lead to LIBERATION. Life is relentless and demanding in nature. We are tested daily in patience, tolerance, generosity, and the use of our intelligence.

Each situation is unique and the wisdom to handle situations must be dug from deep within us to find a resolve. Each challenge we face can throw us into a rage. We become aggravated, enraged, and then derail our best intentions by contaminating all the good we seek to do initially.

We impose our own anxieties on others and our mode of interaction, with even our loved ones, we become torqued out of shape. We let our anger compound allowing the situation to spin further out of control. Many times we have unrealistic expectations of solving problems and that adds to the "life and death" struggle we have already placed in our hands.

These encounters with anger test our spiritual mettle as well. They escalate in a hair's breath. One moment we are engaged in working on resolve, and the next we are ANGERED beyond even our own control.

There are people who are spending their life time in prison because their anger got the better of them. Relationships have been ruined, and children scarred because we haven't learned to
use the gift of oxygen when a problem arises.

Do not indulge in this aggression. At the very moment you feel flushed and peaked to anger, take a breath! I am serious. When we are in pain we hold our breath. When we are angry we also have a tendency to hold our breath! The old "fight or flight" syndrome kicks into action.

The danger in NOT breathing is NOT making rational decisions! When our brains suffer from lack of oxygen, our intellect dwindles, insuring we won't turn the scenario into a positive situation. You can be sure you will "retaliate" in some manner that just plainly screws things up even worse!

INITALLY to find that self control I repeat: Take a breath. Stop for 30 seconds and take a few breaths. In doing just this, your mind and body will relax a bit, you will lower your blood pressure, and your intellect will be established fully again.

Use your oxygen to think more effectively on how you will handle any state of anger you find yourself feeling. Empower yourself with your secret weapon - your oxygen! It is your first line of defense against negative anger. It will put you in control of your bodily responses and possibly keep you from making a dreadful mistake.

If this sounds just too easy, it is! What is a bit more difficult is to get into the habit of doing
this. We habitually get angry and defensive. We make rash and sometimes terrible decisions.

REMEMBER: if you find yourself getting angry take 30 seconds and use your oxygen. YOU will be the one in the situation who makes the better decisions and actually is visibly more together. Anyone can loose control. It takes an intelligent person, one who actually cares about doing the right thing, to work towards trashing the out of control anger. The only thing loosing your cool does is make you look like a fool and throw your body and mind into a terrible state.

Keep your cool and act the wiser individual? OR loose your cool and look the fool? You pick.

Deal or No deal

2007-03-13T18:56:00.000-07:00

Gotcha! (Well, maybe) Here's the deal. You begin to take care of your body now or you will pay later. There is no doubt about it. I admit I tried to maul my body earlier in my life by various methods. Some fun! Many regrets.

Right now is the only time we have. So if you've had a a tough day, even if your day was great,
move back from the desk and stand up. Take a deep breath in through the nose, and exhale through the mouth. Do it:).

While your at it, stretch wiggle around a bit. Lay your ear to your shoulder on the right side. Now the left. For every little move you do, have a mindful plug of that intoxicating oxygen we so forget is there.

Even if you've just sat down to enjoy the many wonderful things about the internet, do yourself a favor. Think about sitting up straight and keeping your spine and ab's strong. Keep getting good oxygen and you will regenerate yourself and relax simultaneously. You will keep that intellect sharp to enjoy the things you read, the things you do in this swift moving presence we call life.

Practice taking care of yourself in this small way and it will enhance your life. I promise. I am the Human Happy Face and for those who know me, I am living proof!

Shakespeare's Wisdom Rocks

2007-03-09T16:48:00.003-08:00

"This above all, to thine own self be true,
and it must follow, as the night the day,
thou canst not then be false to any man."

Stress and Disease

2007-03-03T19:38:00.000-08:00

I am a firm believer that undue stress plays a huge role in our succumbing to various diseases. In fact, a famous cancer specialist has stated that “there is considerable research that points to stress as being an influencing factor in the susceptibility of and resistance to cancer, as well as to the course of the disease itself.”

Both endocrine and immune functions are so sensitive to the influence of stress that measurable effects can be noted and characterized in both animal and human studies.

External stresses seem to overload our systems, particularly if our bodies have already been exhausted from the internal stress of not getting our needs met for a long time. Research can support the role of stress in many other chronic and catastrophic diseases.

Negative thoughts, when allowed to travel from our brain to our organ systems, cause such stress on the systems that eventually they become overloaded and cannot even recognize there is a problem. It is then we succumb to chronic and catastrophic diseases - heart attacks, adrenal failure and cancer.

The way we view situations and our response to them can create a healthier life.

Below are simple activities than can help you live a more STRESS FREE life:

1. If you are unusually busy, leave details, whenever possible to someone else-income tax return, fixing your car, office details, volunteering to be the leader for any organization; women oftentimes volunteer themselves into major stress situations).

2. Move through your day slowly enough to experience beauty in the environment-.

3. Learn to live with unfinished tasks - ONLY A CORPSE IS COMPLETELY FINISHED!

4. Leave time in your schedule for the unexpected.

5. Leave early enough so you do not have to rush (even if you have to get up 20 minutes earlier).

6. Learn to slow your pace of talking, walking and eating.

7. Find time each day to relax and breathe, meditate, or do yoga.

8. Avoid, if possible, doing more than one thing at a time.

9. Ask yourself daily - “What is REALLY important to me?”

10. Make REALISTIC “to do” lists and check off tasks when done.

11. As yourself whether “something” must be done this hour of the day.
would catastrophe ensue if you could not squeeze it in?

12. Use any waiting in line or stopping for lights as an opportunity to practice deep breathing techniques. You will relax, regenerate and empower yourself by doing so.

13. Remember certain types of music can help your heart rate and blood pressure to calm down and flow in sync with healthy heart beats and lower blood pressure.

Choose your day

2007-02-28T07:40:00.000-08:00

One of my very best friends (many say she is an angel) sent me this yesterday. I wanted to share it with you.

"Nothing is going to spoil this moment...Imagine making that decision: nothing's going to spoil this moment. Now, imagine making that decision about a relationship, job, day in the week,
or...whatever. Imagine applying that idea uniformly in your life."

--Neale Donald Walsch,
Author of Conversations with God.

She followed with her thoughts:
It is such a simple thing...This choosing to embrace the unspoiled in every aspect of our lives.
So simple, yet so profound. And it is a decision we each can choose to make.
May you decide to allow nothing to spoil this day.
om~peace~amen and may you be blessed

The Crystal Glass

2007-02-27T18:52:00.000-08:00

How can I ever feel lonely or blue. My surroundings are the buzzing of the telephone wires, the street lights, the sound of trucks on a highway, the slapping of a chain on a flag pole, the flashing of lights celebrating a grand opening.

I stand here and breathe fresh air . I see clusters of stars glowing in the night. I feel the warmth of God’s presence, as I know Him.

I am not alone. I’ll never be alone. I may not be rich, but I have so many wonderful things that surround me. I can see, I can hear, I can touch. I can dance, laugh, run, sing, breathe, and I can love.

The sound of an airplane flys overhead piercing the momentary silence. A owl perches itself on a branch of the tree hooting in the night.

All the while an angel guards me furiously. Fighting even me when I am not careful with myself. God loves me at all times.

Why does it seem so hard to learn to whisper life as carefully as if it were a crystal glass. We scream and flail day by day, forgetting to trust. It will all get done. Or not.

The lost sound of silence echoes in my memory as someone screams a nasty vocabulary of ridiculous words at someone else. The song of the owl is lost to the impatience of men honking their horns and hurrying from place to place.

Each person clings to his own space, in search of long lost peace. It has been here within each of us since we became living souls.

Reach from within to find silence. Rest and rejoice in the beauty of life that is still available to us all. Take a breath. Breathe in new life and purge all negative thoughts as you exhale. It's your life:)

Brain Magic

2007-02-26T18:18:00.000-08:00

"Not only can the brain learn new tricks, but it can also change its structure and function-even in old age." Sharon Begley (January 2007 Time Magazine)

Scientists are now proving that "the ability of mere thought to alter the physical structure and function of our gray matter" is NOT just an idea posed by those who participate in visualizations and meditations.

Mental practice resulted ( as seen in a series of tests) in the reorganization of the brain. The scientists also discovered that mental training had the power to change the physical structure of the brain. How cool is that!

So now we know that scientists concur with those of us who participate in mind training (such as visualizations and meditations) to be used to enhance our lives. At all ages the brain retains the ability to change its structure and function in response to thought and / or experience.

"As you thinketh, so shall you become", it seems, is more meaningful than some previously realized. We have such great, and many times, unrecognized powers to help ourselves heal, to rehearse upcoming events, to actually change our lives through our thoughts.

I choose to dwell in thought today on the following quote from a small book I read daily. It is the Daily Word.

"Because I care about myself, I choose to eliminate negative thoughts and expectations from my mind. I read literature and books that enhance my life and enrich my mind. I monitor my words and actions carefully, make sure that what I say and do is positive and caring. In blessing others I am also being blessed."

What will you think about today?

Side effects

2007-02-24T09:07:00.000-08:00

"You may experience nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, drowsiness, dizziness, tiredness, blurred vision, changes in weight, headache, muscle ache/ pain, dry mouth, bad taste in mouth, stuffy nose, constipation, or change in sexual interest / ability may occur, fainting, tremors, nightmares, ringing in the ears, problems urinating, blood in urine, chest/jaw/left arm pain,
slow/fast/irregular heartbeat, signs of infection, fever, persistent sore throat, seizures, shortness of breath, stomach/abdominal pain, black stools, vomit that looks like coffee grounds, easy bruising/bleeding, painful erection, allergic reaction, itching, swelling, rash, trouble breathing, suicidal thoughts, heart disease, liver disease, kidney disease, blood pressure problems, lightheadedness, bleeding, drowsiness, depression, mood disorders, trouble sleeping, panic attacks, worsening anxiety, irritability, hostile/angry feelings, impulsive actions, severe restlessness, very rapid speech or death."

"If you suspect an overdose call your local poison control center or the emergency room."

"If you miss a dose take it as soon as you remember."

OH SURE! Not just no, but HELL NO!

My husband has had trouble sleeping as we have many stressors (good and bad) to manage presently. I just listen to my relaxation CD (That isn't weird - I love the music and believe
in what I do. I don't have any other CD's that do the trick - so therein....)

Anyway, he went to the VA as he was a Marine. "It will be a waste of time", he assured me.

The doctor said, "Are you depressed?" My husband said, "No."

Naturally the doctor prescribed an antidepressant to take EVERY DAY. The above
side effects were listed as "possible, unusual, rare" - but they were all listed.

My husband has opted to breathe and teach himself to relax instead.

READ everything concerning a possible prescription a doctor recommends. My mama was
on 4 or 5 different prescribed medications. I did a bit of research. Two of the drugs were not compatible. I do not mean every drug is bad / nor every physician poor. But be careful.
Your body is the only place you have to live!

Imagine this on your tombstone

2007-02-24T08:58:00.000-08:00

1. Fear ruled this life
2. Motto: I'll never get everything I have to do done.
3. Anger took this life - the heart could not handle it.
4. The children were out of control.
5. There was no peace to be found here.
6. He hated his life. Now it is gone.
8. She never forgot past sorrows until the day she died.

STRESS ABOUT ALL THESE THINGS AND MUCH MUCH MORE.....
is it worth it? I think not.

Take a breath and CREATE a wonderful day. Time is fleeting. This moment is it! ENJOY- ENJOY -ENJOY!

Finding solace

2007-02-20T07:47:00.000-08:00

To find solace in the sorrows of life one must consistently be able to elevate thoughts and hope to a higher level.

Upon reflection of my own life, I thought nothing could be worse than my own child suffering a birth defect and surgery as a small infant . Along the path tragedy has increased, side by side with joy. The sorrows with intensity I never knew I could manage.

Each circumstance laying another brick upon the foundation I perceive as my own. Each injury to my spirit coming with the assured knowledge now, that with wisdom and faith anything can be resolved. I can forge a head as a human soul and survive the most dire of circumstances.

The truth of it all is grounded in the fact that no matter what happens we have a choice in the final thoughts and position we take.

There are three steps to manage and survive this life. The first is acceptance that circumstances will happen and often times we have absolutely no control over what happens.
The only control we have 100% of the time is our response to circumstances.

The second is whether we will elevate or descend in our minds. It is always a choice.
Take a breath and think before responding.

The third is to keep hope alive and find the joy that is still all around us. Hope is eternal. Draw upon it. It resides within each of us.

Don’t let unhappy people steal your joy. Bless them, feel empathy for their pain, help them if possible, or move quickly to another place. Surround yourself with positive and loving people . Like a magnet you will all draw those positive feelings from one to another, and another.

Years ago, if someone flipped me off on the road (for whatever reason), I used to respond in like manner. Finger in the air I would say "P_ss on you!" Somewhere along the line I decided not to let anyone change my mood, or upset the organs of my body by starting a fire within me.

Now I respond with the peace sign and say "Peace on You." It surely has helped me, and perhaps unbeknown to me it has sent a message to quiet another's living soul.

My motto: "I tried being miserable. It sucked, so I gave it up." Literally.

We have only this moment to be joyful. Use it wisely and have an awesome day!

Right now - How is your posture?

2007-02-13T16:44:00.000-08:00

Think about it. Are you slumped over towards the computer? Are your abdominals taut or are they hanging loose? Are your shoulders rounded forward?

Posture is much more important than we are ever told. When I was younger and mama said "stand up straight", I thought it meant chest out and head erect. I visualized a soldier's straight
posture.

Over the past 20 years revelations about posture have been presented to me in so many different ways. Have you ever seen a young woman in her late teens or early twenties with shoulders rounded forward? You can almost see bones protruding from the back. How about the young man with his belly hanging out and shoulders rolled forward. It is not only a matter of how poor posture looks - it is what it ultimately does to your body and mind. That poor posture is simply derived from a lack of training in good posture habits.

My little mama had a skeleton that was out of control. She had osteoporosis. Her bone mass decreased with the days and she became so fragile she could twist and break a bone. She so wanted to stand up straight - but she couldn't. Within 10 years she lost seven inches in height and she felt shy to go anywhere as she thought the "hump" on her back (as she used to call it) was hideous.

When we slump we actually cut off a portion of our oxygen supply to our body. Our cramped position hinders that precious stuff from getting to all the areas where it's needed.
As our oxygen supply is "kinked up", our energy level is not as powerful. Our abdominals weaken which in turn weakens our lower backs and can start a cycle of back aches.

Good posture maintains a fine balance between muscular strength and flexibility. This balance decreases stress, increases self image and eliminates the possibility of chronic postural strain. (It also helps elimination!)

Right now try this: Sit up straight. Hold in the abdominals, pressing low back into back of your chair. Press your shoulders down (we lift them when tense), and back. Lift your head and neck thinking about stretching the neck upward to separate vertebrae and discs.

Take a deep inhalation in through the nose. Hold it for a few seconds and exhale through the mouth. Do it slowly several times, keeping the new posture. It would be so beneficial if you
would do this just a couple of times an hour. Get in the habit of good posture and good breathing. These things are life changing.

Practice your standing posture as well. Stand up against a wall and do the same steps. Then breathe! If you think of this as a mini workout you will be right! You will find you feel better after the day at the computer or desk. You will have more energy and actually be more relaxed at the same time.

Don't give in to having a lazy body control your health. Use your intellect and make some positive changes and life will improve. It's just the way the body works the best for you and
with a bit of practice you'll be ever so glad you you took a few moments to get in the habit
of maintaining great posture!

DON'T drink too much water, PLEASE!

2007-02-13T11:30:00.000-08:00

I have another blog I write on and I always write different things on the two blogs. However, this particular subject is so important, I thought it had better be on both as the consequence of
what happened is too real - and terrible. I want people to know that even water can be dangerous for us if we consume too much.

I am a water advocate, and have never made the statement "don't drink too much water" before. I just assumed everyone knows that too much of ANYTHING can be toxic.

Sadly a 28 year old mother of three died last week after entering a radio contest to see who could "Hold Your Wee for a Wii". The prize was a Nintendo Wii gaming console. Of course the show was cancelled and people were fired, nonetheless, three small children are without a mother!

The cause of death was "water intoxication". PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, use the intellect you have and be moderate in all that you do. Whether it's alcohol, pop, water, juice, or drinking any liquid, be smart.

That goes for anything that might be injested into your body. Use your wits and remember that moderation is fine in most instances (though some things should be shunned altogether), almost anything can be handled by our human body in moderate doses.

Remember.......your body is the only place you have to live permanently while residing on earth - take care of it and you will retain good health and a healthy mind.